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User Topic: adultery around the world...consequences
twitching
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Default  Posted: 6:42 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are currently places in the world that punish adulterers with jail, mutilation, caning, stoning, or death. I read about one country where it is legal to kill your adulterous husband, but only with your bare hands, and you can kill the affair partner in any way you want.


Thoughts?

It seems preposterous, but this is happening in 2014...not the Old Testament.


"My heart was broken and my head was just barely inhabitable. " - Anne Lamont

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 6:47 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think some of that is going too far. But I'd bet if the United States allowed some of that, adultery would be less common...and not glamorized in the media,movies,music etc.

But death? Violence? No. That's not ok. (But, then, Im having a good morning. Had I been having a bad morning, my response might have been HELLZ YEAH! But, no. I am peaceful this morning. So...no torturing, no stoning.)


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FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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LostSamurai
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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Change of perspective

I have mixed fillings about this. I understand, and get why. It would deter a lot of cheating in some cases.

I wouldn't kill my WW, but I darn should would kill the OMs.

But I don't care anymore. The problem with these things is it doesn't take care of the emotions you feel and the pain and suffering.

And like I told some other people, if these are the laws, and if you wanted to Reconcile, it is basically off the table because the law is put into play first.

[This message edited by LostSamurai at 6:53 AM, May 14th (Wednesday)]


I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

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mozzchops
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Default  Posted: 6:51 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Bring back the stocks. Public humiliation.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stocks



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Posts: 108 | Registered: Mar 2014
confused615
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Default  Posted: 6:58 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

See...now when I think about these kind of consequences...I also can't help but think about our FWS's here on SI. About Aubrie...WOES...BBT...Tired Girl...20...Hufi...Baxter....DS....She-ra...MissesJai...and the many other remorseful FORMER (I do think that is an important word)waywards.

Do they deserve death? Torture?

My vote?

No.



BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7155 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
LostSamurai
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Default  Posted: 7:04 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with Confused. But you see, those who did commit adultery and turn around, wouldn't have a fair chance.

When Jesus told the adulterous woman, I don't condemn you and told others those who have not committed sin throw the stone. Only he could of thrown it.

Not to mention, looking at porn to some would be consider adultery and if they thought that was adultery, a lot more people including myself would be tortured and killed and no chance to turn around and reconcile.


I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

Posts: 1029 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Maryland
devasted30
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Default  Posted: 7:05 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ditto confused615 ditto

Posts: 929 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
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Default  Posted: 7:06 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would like to see more of a financial punishment. You want to cheat? Fine, half of your income automatically goes to your spouse until the last child is 18, and you only get your kids every other weekend and one overnight mid-week every other week plus two weeks in the summer. Someone wants to take your spouse from you? Fine, one-quarter of AP's pay goes to the BS for a minimum of 5 years. Across the U.S., not on a state-by-state basis.

You want to turn someone's life upside down? Okay, but they will be compensated!!! Just my 2 cents. If only...


Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?

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william
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Default  Posted: 7:12 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i dont think that one deserves death for cheating ... but ... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caning would be perfect.

take an adulterous person, bend them over a wooden railing, tie them in place, give them 20 severe smacks with the wooden cane. it "might" give them a stitch or two, it will definitely give them a serious bruise or two, it will probably make them wish they had never done it and never want to do it again, and it will create an environment in which there is a noted and severe penalty attached to adultry.

there is a "naked butt" in this video - but it shows a live caining
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fxWg6JDoRFs


me - bh
her - lara01

from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA

??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys


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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can't condone violence, especially murder, but I must say that for years I had quite a powerful recurring fantasy about tying H and the whore to telephone poles on Main St in our town. (A 'pole' would be quite appropriate for the diseased stripper/whore). Both of them tied to separate poles with their pants down around their ankles, with a sign on H pointing toward his shrunken 'manhood' saying, "I fuck diseased whores and pass STD's to my wife", and a sign on the whore saying, "I fuck, suck, and pass diseases to married men, aren't I sexy"?

The first Christmas after d-day we were at a parade on this particular street, and I missed the entire parade as I sat there obsessing over this fantasy.

[This message edited by painpaingoaway at 7:20 AM, May 14th (Wednesday)]


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Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
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Posts: 7021 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
TheBestMe
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Default  Posted: 7:19 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unfortunately, punishment for adultery in some countries is not meted out fairly. Females are blamed for male sexual misconduct and many receive severe punishments including death.

@ Raven-
You want to turn someone's life upside down? Okay, but they will be compensated!!!

^^^^So agreed. Donkey wanted my life, well bitch it will cost you. Oh, but you are a fraudulent public housing dwelling old ass slunt.

BTW - My H had been advised by a divorce attorney that he would not get 50%. In fact, my H would be happy if he could afford to rent a room.
I bet that tidbit lifted the fog


ME Doing Better
WH Trying As Best He Can
Married 23 years
Status: Working towards friendship
D Day #1 - 2007 My gut told me
D Day #2 - 2010 His D told me
D Day #3 - 1/11/2013 OW Confirmed
LTA 7 years

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Posts: 385 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Inner Peace
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Default  Posted: 7:27 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Caning, stoning, beating, death none of these things deter adultery. The reason I say this is because I have seen recent videos of people suffering these punishments because they cheated. If these things were successful then it should be non existent in the countries that practice this but its not. I saw a woman get beaten and thrown into a crevice in Brazil when the BS found out she was the AP. That woman now has to live with the fact that she took someone else's life.

Caning for these punishments is done with a heavy rattan soaked to inflict more pain. It will today open the skin, as will the whip they use in other countries permanently scarring and in some cases disfiguring the person permanently.

The death penalty for adultery is normally done by someone with bare hands or stoning. Torturous and as painful as possible and many times its only done to a female adulterer. I understand the pain but nothing in me would ever have wanted xSO canned, whipped or dead. There's no excuse for it.


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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 7:43 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree that there should be laws of consequence regarding adultery. I do not condone violence or murder. I do think fines, a criminal record and jail time should be levied. After all it is pretty much a "penal crime". Seriously, I am often appalled at the way infidelity is romanticized in our society.


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Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
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Posts: 1677 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
beingmiranda
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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish public humiliation was more acceptable... like the scarlett letter type thing.
It would make these waywards and their affair partners much harder to move on.
In my case, I don't like the exWH and his OW are still together. They should be shamed because of it.


Me: now 38
Him: up and left for OW
OW: old maid mid thirties with biological clock ticking, desparate for a man.
Divorced the cheater - 8/2011
Married the most AMAZING man - 10/2013

Posts: 787 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: NJ
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are parts of the world where people decide that women shouldn't be educated, kidnap them from their school en masse and sell them for 20 bucks a pop.

The Scarlet Letter was a commentary on the backwardness of Puritanism, not the benefits of public humiliation. The focus of the story was about how one action shouldn't define a person for life.

[This message edited by StillGoing at 8:04 AM, May 14th (Wednesday)]


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tearingaway
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After an A, I think the BS should be able to get out of the M without losing his/her ass in court. There should be no expectation of getting spousal support from the BS in a D, for example. I think the BS deserves an opportunity to get a D without hassle or a long, drawn-out process.

Also, I support pain for the AP, but only in my case and only because I am still angry. He is a giant, steaming pile, and he deserves pain in his life.

Ooops, that last paragraph slipped!


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LostSamurai
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got the perfect punishment. They should bring back the ability to sue the AP for interfering in the marriage in every state.

And they should have a section in the news paper called, cheaters and have their pictures posted like dead beat father pictures and this should be charged as a felony.

Anyone agree?


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LostAngry
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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think some of that is going too far. But I'd bet if the United States allowed some of that, adultery would be less common...and not glamorized in the media,movies,music etc.

You mean the same way drugs, senseless violence and rape are less common and not glamorized in pop culture?

Seriously, I am often appalled at the way infidelity is romanticized in our society.

Almost all sins are romanticized in our society; we are simply more sensitive to infidelity due to having personal experience.

I wish public humiliation was more acceptable... like the scarlett letter type thing.
It would make these waywards and their affair partners much harder to move on.
In my case, I don't like the exWH and his OW are still together. They should be shamed because of it.

I could be mistaken but I believe the woman was made to wear the *A* in that book and the man was not? What sin has each of us committed that is deserving of public shaming due to the hurt we have caused others? Do we want our children to walk into school after their mom or dad has been given their scarlet *A* and have to endure emotional torture heaped on them by friends and possibly treated differently even by teachers and staff?

I got the perfect punishment. They should bring back the ability to sue the AP for interfering in the marriage in every state.
And they should have a section in the news paper called, cheaters and have their pictures posted like dead beat father pictures and this should be charged as a felony.
Anyone agree?

No, how many suits would be dropped due to families suing and countersuing? If the AP also has a spouse, it becomes tit for tat and both families lose even more in the end. I addressed the public humiliation in my previous answer.

What becomes of families trying to R and the mom or dad is hauled off to jail or sued? It makes the mountain of reconciliation a feat larger than Everest.

I can see changing laws back to adultery making it easier and more financially sound for the BS in divorce, but I do not think it should be criminalized.


"How People treat you is their Karma. How you react is yours"
Wayne Dyer

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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't agree with violent punishments, but I do think there should be legal consequences.

In pretty much every other aspect of life, if someone harms you or breaks a contract or promise, you have recourse. Except when it is your own spouse.

There is a requirement that every wedding be witnessed. Why? Nobody's going to hold them to what they promised anyway, so why bother?

The injustice of it really drives me crazy.


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Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think divorce courts should rule heavily in favor of betrayed spouses. The violence and public shaming i can do without though i readily admit to posting ap's info on a cheater site. In my view his lack of ethics can follow him, since i cant sue him or her for breach of contract. I do want filthy fish to swim together, so a nice divorce for the bs, plus custody of the kids would be fine...one quick note, i agreed to a relatively small sum for support because my state has this stupid equity crap where they dont even consider the psycho behavior of my ex...so i had to pay something. We agreed to a number but the enforcement agency acts like im the prick! I call they act nasty, i try to talk they treat me like crap, i keep thinking what the heck did i do except try to do the right thing. One person used to work there told me they assume the men are always the problem


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Divorced: September 17, 2013


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