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User Topic: Want An Affair? Promiscuous? Married Cheating?
RedRaven6500
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Default  Posted: 7:37 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ranting for a moment.

So, I'm online, reading an article about divorce and pre/post nuptials, and there is a link at the bottom with the title "Reasons why married cheaters wind up divorced". I click on it, out of curiosity and read a very insipid, ignorant article stating 7 reasons why your cheating spouse will wind up divorced because of their actions. It was hardly insightful, and had nothing but "well, duh" moments at the end of each reason.

What pissed me off was, at the bottom of the article where you could leave a comment about what you read, were a few ads to "promote" the site and articles page. And they were ads for cheating websites. WTF!?! "Want an Affair?" "Promiscuous?" "Married Cheating?" Seriously? That is what you want to promote for a "married.anwsers" website? Promoting cheating websites to a spouse looking for answers about their marriage, legal or not, seems perfectly normal to them? I guess, since you are reading about why cheaters divorce, that would be your natural choice? Zero sense.

I just get fed up with how the media, movies, songs and the internet view infidelity. I guess I am just old fashioned and simply believe that when you make a promise, religious or not, that it actually means something, and you do everything possible to keep that oath.

I know that those things don't make a person cheat, but it sure can help them to rationalize it. Just fed up with the BullShit today, in any and all forms.

End Of Rant! Carry on with you day.


BW: Me 42, WH: Him 42, Married: 22 years
DD: 21, DS: 20 both in college
DDay: 22 Oct 2011
Year PAs/EAs started: 2004, possibly 2003
OW: 3 serious long-distance PA/EA's, several casual PA's, some at the same time. Classy
In R

Posts: 130 | Registered: Jun 2013
Raven96
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Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear you. It's so sad, and I'm sorry it got to you. When does it end???

(((RedRaven6500)))


Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?

Posts: 379 | Registered: Aug 2013
sad12008
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Member # 18179
Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just get fed up with how the media, movies, songs and the internet view infidelity. I guess I am just old fashioned and simply believe that when you make a promise, religious or not, that it actually means something, and you do everything possible to keep that oath.

I totally agree!!

I view cheating as a public health hazard (think national blood supply) and a drain on the economy (think broken homes, increased need for psychological care, lost work days, and on an on). It's no trifling thing, even if you somehow manage to look beyond the emotional devastation.


You can't fill a cup with no bottom.

Posts: 3900 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: a new start together
Schadenfreude
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've never gone to any cheating site, and only here did I learn what Ash... mad.... Is. But. You know ,just know, that some bastard has found a way to make money off of desires to cheat. Back in the day, these people were called pimps and madams, and were not exactly respectable. Now, I guess they are internet entrepreneurs if not relationship experts on cable tv.

Are RedRaven and Raven related?


Posts: 892 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Midwest
Acer0112
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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH used Ash Mad - he told me a little about the women he talked with before finding the OW he's with now - he was astonished about how long some of these women were on this site, living married lives, but finding happiness outside of the marriage - for decades - some of them the husbands approved, most secret. He claimed he met some that just wanted conversation, no physical - that would have been better than what he ended with, but there are all sorts on there.

It just makes my jaw drop - it's so out of my mind to even think of straying away from a marriage. As all of us here agree, YELL AND SCREAM for counseling, end the marriage, but do not cheat and hurt the person you have built a life with - no matter what the issues are. It's so mind-boggling to try to comprehend.

And shame on that site for running that ad - that makes me sick. I can't even open my spam email folder anymore - all the sites cluttering it up.


D-Day 1/24/14
D-Day2 04/08/14, false R
17yrs married, 23yrs together
Two kids 13, 11
Divorced 10/2014

Posts: 201 | Registered: Apr 2014
RedRaven6500
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Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Schadenfreude: Nope, just a cute coincidence. :)

Acer0112: I agree! A site promoting help and advice for marriage and their ads come from crappy, sleazy cheating sites!?! It just blows my mind.


BW: Me 42, WH: Him 42, Married: 22 years
DD: 21, DS: 20 both in college
DDay: 22 Oct 2011
Year PAs/EAs started: 2004, possibly 2003
OW: 3 serious long-distance PA/EA's, several casual PA's, some at the same time. Classy
In R

Posts: 130 | Registered: Jun 2013
Ostrich80
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Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 1:36 AM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Advertising for heartache and pain Karma where are you??? Makes me sick


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5242 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
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