Sometimes I am an idiot.
I had surgery yesterday, personal and not something I wanted to discuss with some people.
I told my mother and mil beforehand and let them know I was not discussing it with others.
Well we all know what happens next. MIL tells husband's side of the family and my mom tells my brother.
I do not have a personal relationship with my brother and I have told my mother that information about my life is not to be shared with him. He is mean and I don't need his toxic "love". I have done a great job setting boundaries with him and SIL.
My MIL can't keep her mouth shut abd thinks it's her business to spread family news.
So my husband was the one to find out from others that word spread. His initial reaction was that family loves me and it's ok they know.
I explained there are people that support me in our family and others that don't. It was my choice wrt who to tell and MIL and my mom broke my trust.
I go back and forth being pissed at myself for trusting them when my gut said not to and at them for being such assholes.
I know the answer is to keep the information to myself next time but every once in a while it would be nice to be able to trust your own mother.
Ugh....my own damn fault.
Thanks for letting me vent.