Topic: The opposite of hysterical bonding. Repulsion for WS?
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Member # 42702
| Posted: 11:33 PM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014|
Has anyone found that they just have a complete and utter loss of attraction for their WS after D-Day? I really don't see us coming back from it. I just don't feel that way for him anymore. Things were rocky before I found out but now I just feel repelled by him. I couldn't care less if we never had sex again. Even before my discovery we hadn't had sex in about 6 months. Anyone identify?
Caught him looking up escorts, massage parlors, and escort review boards. Claims he didn't follow through... Who knows. I don't really believe him but haven't found any TT yet.
D-Day: early March 2014.
2 kids under 3
Posts: 8 | Registered: Mar 2014
Member # 34827
| Posted: 11:58 PM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014|
I didn't feel that way after DD, in fact we HB and it was pretty damn good...for a month . It wasn't until after I discovered the porn, POV videos, looking up plenty of fish, and women looking for discreet affairs, that I found him repulsive. I wouldn't touch him with my dogs lady parts now...sorry belle, no offense
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Posts: 4932 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 32554
| Posted: 12:15 AM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014|
Me! I was utterly sickened & disgusted by him. Even to this day, just smelling him on the kids when they come back from spending time with him triggers revulsion.
Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
Posts: 9529 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
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Member # 42573
| Posted: 12:29 AM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014|
I went back and forth, but he's never looked the same to me since the first Dday. All that sweetness and innocence was gone from his face. Every once in awhile I'd see the face of the man I fell in love with, but since this last discovery of false R, I refuse to look at him, unless I have too.
I'm not cold, I just don't want to see hope for us or anything like that by looking in his eyes. The only thing I would want to see is if he really started to feel shame or remorse for what he did. But, I think he knows he's not strong enough to let himself go there and feel that kind of pain. (hence the serial cheating)
I've heard people say "this time really aged him" and I just shrug and say I haven't looked this time.
Posts: 46 | Registered: Feb 2014
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Member # 41509
| Posted: 7:01 AM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014|
Yup, I was completely grossed out by XWH and his MOW . It was a major contributor to my decision to divorce him.
Me: BW, 49
married 26 years
Posts: 29 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: United States
Member # 21964
| Posted: 7:07 AM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014|
After the dday that showed me he was a philanderer? I realized I was never attracted to him, that no wonder I hadn't liked sex with him, that touching him physically repulsed me, and still to this day, even seeing a picture of him makes me physically ill.
But then part of what I learned on that dday is my xWH is a child molester so ...
"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand
Posts: 3058 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
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