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Pudding
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very successful meeting with lawyer. Papers will be served Monday or Tuesday. Also changing will.

Also had confrontation with WH and told him papers will be served. He was shocked and devastated etc. Full of guilt, upset etc but we have been here before.

I am in a good place. Feeling strong and in control.. Thanks for all your support.

No response from OWH. Maybe he doesn't care. Maybe he is confronting OW. I expect she will contact WH, so we'll see how he responds.


Posts: 266 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: UK
Forged1
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

<Applause>


Me: BH - 30s
Her: WW - 30s

Married - 2008
PA with boss for at least 5 months in 2013, possibly longer.
DDay - Feb 2014
Separated, heading to D
==================================
At this stage, I'm pretty much bulletproof.


Posts: 271 | Registered: May 2014 | From: USA
NeverAgain2013
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. You are my HERO.
2. Please see number #1.
3. It's very possible that the BH simply hasn't been out to get the mail. I'm HORRIBLE about mail and I hate going through it - I grudgingly drag myself out to the mailbox maybe once a week to collect it. It's usually spring-loaded because it's so packed. Mail sucks.

If there's a way to get to the BH to let him KNOW there's a letter in the box that's very important, then you should definitely do that. You don't want HER intercepting it when she gets the mail once she's home again.
4. You are my HERO.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1753 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
DepressedDaddy
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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Now that you are at this point, come on over to the S/D forum. A great bunch of people. You can share your story and progress. You can receive some great support, and who knows, maybe provide some great support as well!

Congrats on feeling stronger and standing up for yourself!


Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy

“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."


Posts: 754 | Registered: Dec 2013
Schadenfreude
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Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have proved to him you mean what you say. NC meant NC, a deal was a deal. Break that deal by romantic chit chat contact, you'll get divorce papers. Simple and clean.

I hope you discussed financial protection with lawyer as he has Friday to run to the bank, etc.

Let us know how full of regret he gets this time. Just in case someone else's WS takes the same path.


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ShiningAutumn8
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Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was shocked and devastated etc.

Never ceases to amaze me how these selfish, lying cheaters are so shocked and devastated when they are caught.

Asses. SMH


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tfkeel
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Never ceases to amaze me how these selfish, lying cheaters are so shocked and devastated when they are caught.

Like you say, they are liars. They lie about how shocked and devastated they are, too.

They lie about anything which they think will cause "damage control" and which will make the penalties and consequences upon them less severe.


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brkn_heartd
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Support being sent to you. I hope you have a good weekend with your family.

I bet he is surprised...surprised you did something about it! Good job!


Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1591 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
Lalagirl
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Default  Posted: 7:13 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Pudding))))

He was shocked and devastated

I'll bet. But I'd say he's more disappointed...after all, you took his cake away and knocked his sorry ass off the fence.

Hang in there...we are here for you...and you are going to be okay.

Hugs!


Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 30 years 9/2/13
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS & 20 mo. GD & GB #4 due 8/15(DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
Reconciled! Construction Complete.

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NeverAgain2013
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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Never ceases to amaze me how these selfish, lying cheaters are so shocked and devastated when they are caught.

Ain't it the truth???

I think these chuckle-heads think they're invincible or something.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1753 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was shocked and devastated etc
How can he possibly be shocked and devastated - when he was only last week talking of 'future plans' with OW? What a... well......chuckle head.


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

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Skan
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Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hugs))) Good for you. Please, try to take the weekend to do something good for yourself. You deserve pampering!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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WastedTime12
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Pudding))),

Sending strength and perseverance your way. Please keep moving forward. You deserve so much more than what he is giving.


Life is meant to be lived, not numbed!

In his quest for freedom, he set me free!


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