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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 20
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You guys sure talk a lot!

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reallyscrewedup7
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome to the Menz Thread!

I am sure someone will come by with a lot of cool pictures and stuff. But I have unilaterally decided that the first post should contain these words....

R E S P E C T......Y O U R S E L F

Do that, and trust me, you will find a way through the shitstorm known as infidelity.

[This message edited by reallyscrewedup7 at 2:54 PM, May 16th (Friday)]


Infidelity sucks shit

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No12turn2
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

or there are a TON of us.


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 499 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
DefiledRage
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good start RSU7!

***Rule 1***

R E S P E C T......Y O U R S E L F

Oh and I got pictures....

Welcome to the NO MA'AM SI Chapter

***Rule 2***
Respect the Modz

***Rule 3***
Menz Only

***Rule 4***
Something else that happens to Posers in these parts:


And when your wife turns into this, we are here to help.

[This message edited by DefiledRage at 3:39 PM, May 16th (Friday)]


M:14yrs
Dday 1 EA 7/8/2010
Dday 2 PA 3/1/2013 same OMM for 4yrs

Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."


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No12turn2
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So we were talking about the weekend...

Going to a concert tonight with my cousin. That's about it.


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 499 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
reallyscrewedup7
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Defiled - I'll leave it up to you to decorate. SDWB has apparently fallen down on the job and trust me, I totally suck at interior design.

I have a TARDIS in my office as a storage closet.

Geeks are us! Radiologists rule!!!


Infidelity sucks shit

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No pressure RSU7, however, we do have certain expectations!

Holy Crap, just tried to post to 19 after talking about posting to Wayward. Got the Access Denied, contact administrator flag! .

Adeahan, please, warning first?


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2551 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
reallyscrewedup7
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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess you can tell I have started the weekend early. Well, not quite. I have like 200 reports to complete. Or should I say, 200 reports to hand to my administrative associate as I head out the door...

Damn. It is good to be the boss some days!


Infidelity sucks shit

Posts: 896 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Finding my way
Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Time for a WonderBoy sighting. Let's save at least one spot on page 1 for him to post.

5454, Thanks for the well wishes at the end of BM 19, hopefully I'll something entertaining to report next week.

You guys sure talk a lot!

Sounds like DS to me. And yes, we do.

Later fellas. Signing off for the last time. Had to make my mark on BM 20 before calling it a weekend.


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciling


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Adeahan
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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

if i had to see it then you all have to see it! lol

POSER shocks ehhhhh

[This message edited by Adeahan at 3:06 PM, May 16th (Friday)]


Me 33, H 31,D-Day 03/30/14, Together 12 years, married 2, 3 kids, 3 dogs, Working on R
"nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it aint about how hard you hit. Its about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward"

Posts: 138 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Ontario, Canada
DefiledRage
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

POSER shocks ehhhhh

Clearly we need to label that switch better.
Maybe something like "flip for no obligation sex"
Posers would fall for it every time.

Who's got the clock?


M:14yrs
Dday 1 EA 7/8/2010
Dday 2 PA 3/1/2013 same OMM for 4yrs

Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."


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ontheslope
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a TARDIS in my office as a storage closet.

Okay... that is like the coolest fucking thing ever.

Haven't been on here in a while guys. Not going to post too much right now... if I did, you'd all just get depressed. Let's just say lots of deep talk with the W, lots of trying to figure out if I ever really healed, and lots of trying to determine what I really want. And therapy. Lots, and lots, of therapy.

And beer.... and running. I run when I'm stressed. And talking. And writing. And more beer.

Sigh. This shit never ends, does it?


Me: BH, 36
Her: WW, 37
Two girls 8 & 10
Married 12 years
Dday: July, 2009

She wants answers... I'm still trying to figure out what the questions are.


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WearingTheHorns
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Regarding closure and the legs crossed line: My 1st W step-father used to say to her when we'd leave "Keep your knees together". Maybe I should've been telling WW that every time she'd walk out the door back before the A's started.

If WW told me she wanted closure I'd tell her she could have it when whichever one she wanted the closure with died. She could weep and wail and throw herself on the coffin if she wanted to, so long as I could open the lid and take a dump before they started throwing in the dirt. Then once the grave was closed I'd dance a happy jig on it. Of course best case scenario for that would be that I had been the cause of his demise. Not that I'm bitter or anything you understand.

It's the weekend gents and I hope all of you make it through intact and with your sanity, if not a little worse for wear brought on by over imbibing.


Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months

"What God has joined together, let man... no man put asunder" -Pastor at our wedding concluding the ceremony


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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


One free beer of choice for the best replacement of the $2 sign in this image. After which a team building session to make one of these damn things to trap POSERs!

Side note, @5454

a mindset that was so radically different than mine(later came to realize that it's not so different, more of a learned method of coping)
very very wise indeed, thank you for this. As for the overexposure comment, there is actually a PTSD related treatment called ... you guessed it ... Exposure Therapy. I've found it to be both painful and helpful.


BBF 29
WGF 24
Dday 1 - 1/6/14 EA Day
Dday 2 - 1/23/14 PA Day

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

lots of trying to figure out if I ever really healed, and lots of trying to determine what I really want.

Sigh. This shit never ends, does it?

Hope it does brother. What I want is a *healed* marriage. Better, stronger, faster. We can rebuild it. We have the....ahhh never mind. Honestly, figure out what you do want. It's not easy(still working on the final details myself). Then figure out if she is in that picture. Then, is she capable?

And beer....
And more beer.

You've got your answer.

K, kidding aside, it's a process that takes time. We're here for you OTS. Strength brother.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

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Forged1
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm relatively new here - just saying hello. This place was recommended to me after I posted over in JFO.

I'm officially moving to my new place tomorrow - less than 24 hours to go now. Tomorrow night's going to feel terribly strange.

Anyway, I hope you all have a good weekend.


Me: BH - 30s
Her: WW - 30s

Married - 2008
PA with boss for 5 months in 2013
DDay - Feb 2014
Separated, heading to D
==================================
At this stage, I'm basically bulletproof.


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5454real
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Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome Forged1. Love the name. Not completely up to speed on your story, but what I do recall.....damn brother. Pregnant, lost POSER's baby? Oooff. Sorry brother. That's a shit ton of weight.

Tomorrow night's going to feel terribly strange.

The bar is open 24/7 here if you need a shoulder or a drinking buddy(not really recommended). Might be a little slow, but I'll try to check in.

Strength

BTW, noobs bring the beer!


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

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Forged1
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks.

I've had one (no seriously - just one) drink since this whole thing started, and that was actually to celebrate A Good Win for the Office.

I've almost stopped drinking since I moved to the US. Too much driving and firearms in my line of work to throw alcohol into the mix.

As to the situation/backstory, yeah - pretty heavy alright.


Me: BH - 30s
Her: WW - 30s

Married - 2008
PA with boss for 5 months in 2013
DDay - Feb 2014
Separated, heading to D
==================================
At this stage, I'm basically bulletproof.


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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hello and welcome, Forged1.

That back story of yours is jacked up. Know that you are not alone. Best of luck on the new living arrangements.

Like 54 said, it does get a little slow on the weekends, but the bar and grill is open all weekend long. I'll be throwing some brats on the grill in a bit. Plenty of soft drinks to go around, and I'll be brewing up a jar of sun tea as well. We are here to accommodate!

Stick around, put your feet up, make yourself at home. I've gotten lots of help and advice here, myself. You came to the right place. We're here for you.


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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Damn damn damn damn DAMN! As a side effect of my surgery, I hurt my back - L4-L5-sciatic nerve. Physical Therapy today, and Medicare won't pay for 2 clinic visits the same day. No OT today. No splint for bike riding.

OT and bike splint now scheduled for Tuesday. Ah, well. I think the weather prediction says only one of the next 4 days will be pleasant bike riding weather anyway....

I think OT starts with no-weight curls....

I'm very grateful for everything the SI Staff does, but, you know, I wonder if some of 'em don't really understand men....


fBH (me) - 65+, fWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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