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User Topic: how to reassure him
Alyssamd24
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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yesterday morning my BH sent me a text asking if I was at work...I was and had been since 8:00 (it was 9:00 when he texted me)..the app that I got for my phone was delayed and had just told him I had gotten to work....naturally he was worried especially since I left the house at 7:00.

Today he texted me and asked how my day was...we chatted a bit and then he admitted that he had driven through the town I used to work(and the town XAP lives in) and had looked for my car in a parking lot when he drove by, terrified that he would see my car there(it is a parking lot near my old job and is also somewhere I would meet xap at during the A).

I told my BH that I understand why driving by that spot is so painful for him and apologized for being the one who put him in this position...and causing all these doubts. I reassured him that I am not going to make those poor choices ever again and that I will spend the rest of my life proving that to him.

I tried to find a new more accurate GPS tracker for my phone and downloaded one. The thing that makes this harder is that I don't have a typical job where I am sitting in an office all day...some days I may be at the office for an hour or two or more, and other days I never even get a chance to go there. I drive a lot with because of my job and am constantly.driving from one place to another. I feel like this almost makes it more difficult for him because I have that freedom in my job.

Other than being transparent with everything what can I do to help my BH rebuil his trust in me?


"I need to be redeemed to the one I've sinned against because he's all I ever knew of love"

Posts: 854 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Massachusetts
AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, May 16th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't looked on many months but SO takes pictures with a time stamp everywhere she goes when she arrives and leaves. She wouldsend them to me if iI asked.

I've even taken taken them of my self if I was somewhere out of routine.


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fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2599 | Registered: Aug 2012
cannibal
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Default  Posted: 12:06 AM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Show him your pay stubs so he can verify the hours you work with the hours your gone. I have an app that forwards all text messages to an email address. That has helped. I've had simular issues with GPS apps for my wayward's phone. One thing that makes them a little more accurate is actually turning the GPS on on the phone other wise it works off of triangulation which is far less accurate.


Me: BF 35 Her: FWF 35 dss: 17
D-day: 06/06/04. Ons
D-day: 02/28/13. length of A: 4+ months
Seperation after dday
Moved back in 6/20/13
Broke n/c: 07/24/13
Together since: 02/05/02

Posts: 94 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: cannibal
5454real
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Default  Posted: 12:14 AM, May 17th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't looked on many months but SO takes pictures with a time stamp everywhere she goes when she arrives and leaves. She wouldsend them to me if iI asked.

This^^^^^


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

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