WH and I are trying to reconcile. A week from today, we leave for a week long family vacation to Walt Disney World. We have gone there many times before, but this time is different. This time is post D-day.
I am really struggling. I now know that the first time we went to WDW, WH was involved with OW#1. Looking back, I remember catching him on the pay phone a few times. He claimed he was talking to his sick grandmother, but it turns out that he was actually talking to OW#1.
On top of that, he really treated me like dirt during that vacation, picking fights and generally being mean. Turns out that he was planning on staying behind with OW#1 and OC the following week when we were suppose to move back to our home state. WH was being so awful because he was trying to goat me into giving him an excuse to leave me when we got back home. I didn't take the bait though.
It turns out that OW#1 had a huge problem with him going on vacation with me. Instead of pushing me into giving him reason to leave me, OW#1 lost it on him when we got back. WH told me that after 3 days of her screaming at him every chance she got, he changed his mind about staying behind with her and OC. I have mixed feelings about knowing that our first family vacation was what caused WH to stay with me.
Knowing all of this now kind of taints my memories. Canceling the vacation is not an option. My kids are really looking forward to going back. It's been four years since the last time we went so I refuse to disappoint them. I'm just going to have to suck it up and try not to ruin our trigger loaded vacation. WH handles my triggers well so I'm not worried about that. I just want to give my kids the vacation that they deserve.
Until very recently, WH has also been a total flirt. I have been very blunt with him that I will not tolerate any flirting, ogling, or even him putting out the "vibe." I fully expect him to handle anything anyone else tries with the same level of disrespect that they are showing me and our marriage. Part of me is worried that he will fail on this, but the other part of me is basically daring him to fail.
I haven't been able to get really excited about this vacation. I only have a week to get ready and I just can't get motivated. Has anyone else struggled with family vacations after D-day?BW: 41
Married 18 years. SD: 25 from his 1st. M. DS: 20 from 1st M. DD: 16 (autistic)
D-day: Oct. 2013 with ongoing revelations.
6 affairs, 1 OC, My sister was OW#5 with countless attempted A's.
Considering R but fully ready to D.