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User Topic: Infidelity and Zoloft
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

IMHO there may be many reasons people choose to cheat but there are no excuses. All cheaters need to take responsibility for their actions in order for there to be healing and reconciliation.

My SAFWH was on ADs for years. They didn't help his depression, his rages, his feelings of inadequacy. Neither, of course, did his drug of choice, porn, strippers and the like. It wasn't until he was finally diagnosed as bipolar and given proper medication that his moods stabilized.

Bipolar is often cited as a cause for hypersexuality. I don't accept that. Neither does he. He cheated, he was a selfish, nasty person, and yes, his behavior lead him to a cycle of repeated behavior that was compulsive and addictive. Excuse? Nope. Those were rotten choices he made in an attempt to feel better, to feel normal, and yes, to keep suicidal thoughts at bay. He could have chosen to get help from a different doctor, but he didn't. He had a career, a wife and great kids, a beautiful home, and no obvious reason to feel like crap. He chose destructive ways to deal with his pain.

Zoloft didn't cause your husband to cheat. He chose that. But maybe a combination of things, the medicine included, allowed him to chose that path. Don't let him off the hook.

Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

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Default  Posted: 12:19 AM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Physician here:

Zoloft does not increase the sex drive. It can decrease depression symptoms allowing a person more energy and interest to do the things they wanted to do in the first place.

When it's given to a bipolar patient without a mood stabilizer (ex: lithium, depakoate, lamictal, etc) it can cause mania with hyper sexuality just being one feature. If someone is that manic they are also usually drinking too much, doing drugs, gambling, spending money, not sleeping, not fulfilling obligations, etc.

Certainly decreasing ones Zoloft wouldn't cause that.

Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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