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User Topic: A relative is dying
Guinness23
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Default  Posted: 1:43 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My fathers first cousin - the father of 5 kids- is on his deathbed. This man is the youngest (now aged 79) of three brothers who toughed it out on a farm in Indiana raising 5 wonderful kids who according to his wife don't really "get" that their father is within days of dying. His wife - their mother- has been so strong but is crumbling. What kind of help csn you give someone in this situation? She has been married to this man for at least 52 years. My father - his cousin and a "brother" to him is deeply saddened and feeling his own mortality. What does one say for comfort? I am 47 on Friday and have been living my own life's nightmare. How do I help these people in my family?


Me 47
ExH 43
Divorced 2010

47 is the new year of treating myself better than I have in 6 years.

What ever doesn't kill me makes me stronger so long as I remember that

My favorite drink is no longer Guinness but water. Call me Dasani23


Posts: 557 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Indiana
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 6:53 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Guinness & family)))

I'm so sorry. Do you live nearby that you could give hugs, bring a meal, spend time with them? Sending strength.


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norabird
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bringing food or sending a gift card to a local restaurant if you don't live near by. Listening. Reaching out. Simply being there with the will to help is always appreciated. ((((Guinness)))


Sit. Feast on your life.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, May 18th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Guinness and family))))

Best advice I can give is to show up (whether in person or with regular phone calls) and listen. When my father's brother died, it hit him in a way that changed him. He became very aware of his mortality. For a while it manifested as depression, but it eventually turned into a drive to live for the day and enjoy each day as fully as he could. He also became semi obsessed with family history. He gathered stories and pictures to ensure his brother's life(and his own) would be recorded and remembered.

Don't know if any of this helps. Sending you strength.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending strength to you and your family Guinness.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
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