How can he just do this? I stuck through this person during all his hardships, held him up, defended him, helped fight get custody of his first DS. I did everything i could to make his life easier and then he turns his back on me, now the kids. He has been nothing but awful to me, of course blaming me for our marriage failing. Its all my fault and i make it difficult for him to have a relationship with his child. I do not keep him from her, i just dont push him to see her if he doesnt want to.
I didnt think the situation could get worse.. but today--- it has.
Contact your lawyer immediately to discuss the ramifications of everything. He can't just give up his kid because he's choosing to live far away from her and because he doesn't want anything more to do with her mother. He can try. I would certainly want to know everything about both options. Do not sign anything or draft anything without talking to your lawyer. Don't let him bully you.
It is what it is.
At this point him moving has not happened and seems like he keeps changing his plans and all it is doing is keeping the drama alive.
I would stop communicating with him, get the papers and if he decides to ride off onto the sunset let him- you and your child will be better off.
He can reliquish his parental rights but he would have to be the one to go through courts and such, if I were you I would just get the divorce paperwork squared away and that is that.
If he wants all that done, he fired you from the job of taking care of things for him- let him figure it out and do it himself.
I think the inital shock has wore off. Im not even really mad at this given moment. Im ready to begin again, and give my DD the best life possible.
Believe me, I tried. We had just finalized the adoption of DD when I found out about XWH and OW. In my opinion, for the few months that he was actually with her, and he wasn't actually her father, I didn't see why I should have to deal with this animal. I proposed that he relinquish his rights in exchange for never having to pay CS or any other expenses. However, my lawyer and the courts informed me that the state will not allow it.
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
It may take a while, but you are going to get the last laugh.