Have you asked your WH if his buddy knew about the affair?
And, am I reading this correctly? You're dday was a month ago? And your WH is going out "for a few drinks" with his buddies??
Um...NO. He shouldn't be going out anywhere right now and leaving you at home. He should be home helping you heal and working though his affair with you.
It's ok to tell him you are uncomfortable with him going out for awhile. If he is remorseful, then he will stay home.BS(me)42
M: June 2001
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.