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deena04
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I filed as I feel it works for me to start ending it. If we can R, great, but I want to be strong for me and do what I have to do. My question is, with him doing the work and not relenting, can I be a bitch and specifically ask reasonable requests in order to see if we can R? These would include him getting his temper in check (no, he doesn't hit, but he yells easily), putting his foot down with his kids a bit more (I am a teacher and follow through on consequences, he just threatens over and over and it DRIVES ME NUTS because they don't do anything he says), and other requests. I have found my bitch boots and they fit great! It's tough love or something like that.


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
L-I-B-E-R-A-T-I-N-G ME

Posts: 1237 | Registered: Dec 2013
RidingHealingRd
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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

can I be a bitch and specifically ask reasonable requests in order to see if we can R?

^^^I don't think you are being a bitch. You should ask for anything and everything that you feel will lead you to successful R. If he is 100% committed to R he will willingly work to meet your needs.

Hopefully, your WH will own up to his fault as it will make change easier/permanent.


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 4 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


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