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User Topic: If only being selfish was a crime
renee21
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Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, May 19th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish we could press charges on these fucktards for being selfish and for the emotional damage they do to their own children.

In an alternate universe I would run both him and his gutter pig over with my car but in this one I will come here and vent instead.

I came home to a very depressed DD16 and seeing the sadness in her face just makes me want to hurt him. He actually asked me if I was blaming her depression on him.

Hmm...let me see FT...she never had it before you fucking leveled her life, ya think it might be that coupled with the fact you live with your whore and her kids....take pics smiling having a good ole time on the gutter pig parents boat with her and her kids...

While we clean up the mess you left us with...bills, messed up house, not knowing where we are going to live, what we are going to do.

Her first counseling appointment is soon. I feel so bad watching a happy mellow kid struggle with something like depression because her father wanted to be a selfish bastard. I do believe they are going to suggest medication.

So I think that would be an affirmative that your dumb ass is to blame fucktard chameleon.


BW(me) 36
WH-36 SA
Three kids 18, 16 and 9
Married 18 years.
Multiple D-Days, multiple OW and an OC
12/19/03,5/13/2004,12/5/2009, 2/20/2014
I am no longer a guest on the Jerry Springer Show.

Posts: 1325 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Florida
Harriet
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Default  Posted: 12:46 AM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((renee21 and daughter)))

I'm so sorry for what he is putting you through. I'm glad she has you there for support. My ex is getting better about spending time with his kids (now that the thrill of the affair has lost its bloom), but before then I tried extra hard to make our home and our time very special to make up for the loss of their father. I made it HIS loss - he is the one missing out. My kids and I are closer than ever.

My DD is also 16. She has learned to rely on me for her sense of family, but it's a hard age.


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

Posts: 385 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: California
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 1:20 AM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He actually asked me if I was blaming her depression on him.

Yes, you douchebag, I am....and if you are not the *actual* cause then your shitty behavior sure as shit is a proximate cause!

I've got *nothing* for you here advice-wise. I have NO idea how to deal with this. Me and my kids put our family dog to sleep a month ago (kids were devastated), stbx was *out of town*, and 2 days later all kinds of pictures surface of him having a grand time in Napa during the *family dog's passing event.* Did my kids see those pictures? You bet your ass they did since they are *friends* with him. Have I said anydamnthing about it? Nope. And unfortunately, they haven't said anything about it either.

Disordered stbx-spouses are the *worst* type of people to deal with.

Do what needs to be done in order to help your DD through this time. If she needs medication for a while, then so be it. It doesn't have to be forever. However, I am really anti-meds, so if the meds are suggested, I would strongly suggest having a convo with the IC about *why*....just to be sure that the IC has all the relevant info and whatnot.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 7685 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
idontknowwhy5
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's impossible for me to understand how a cheater could hurt their own kids by cheating and breaking the family apart.

I enjoyed your revenge dream. I had entertained (briefly) the idea of mailing naked pictures of the other man to his coworkers, but I would never really do something like that. It's probably illegal anyway.


DDays- too many

Status - In D.


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GreatRoleModel
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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish we could press charges on these fucktards for being selfish and for the emotional damage they do to their own children.

AMEN!!!


BS (me)
XWS (him) NPD
DIVORCED!!!
It takes a village to deal with the village idiot!

Posts: 290 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: NC
dmari
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish this too, renee21!! If their selfishness ONLY affected adults ~ so be it. But when if dramatically impacts THEIR OWN CHILDREN, it should be a crime. Unfortunately, the ones that pay the price of the crime are the children.

I too have had to watch my once easy going happy go lucky DS15 slip into depression. He is on medication and it has helped but it isn't a magic pill. There is so much work to do in therapy.

(((((renee21 and DD16)))))


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Mediation date: 7/10/14 and 7/22/14
Final final court date: Oct 2014

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Guinness23
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Default  Posted: 3:48 AM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Topic: If only being selfish was a crime

...then we would have to lock up the FEW GOOD people in this world. Being a lying, conniving, narcissistic POS is something above and beyond just infidelity. Its a no holds barred way of life with TOO MANY people. How freaking sad.


Me 47
ExH 43
Divorced 2010

47 is the new year of treating myself better than I have in 6 years.

What ever doesn't kill me makes me stronger so long as I remember that

My favorite drink is no longer Guinness but water.


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