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User Topic: Oh, it's my fault your life sucks now? (vent)
SeeingRed
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I saw my sex addicted, narcissistic asshat of a STBXH and he actually blamed me because he is now sleeping on a blow up mattress in his friend's house because and I quote "I threw him out."

I kept my cool and ignored him otherwise I would have to figure out how to dispose of a body

But seriously how far up his ass must his head be to blame ME for "throwing him out" as the cause of his current living conditions while overlooking the fact that he HAD BEEN FUCKING STRANGERS AND HOOKERS FOR YEARS.

Clearly, I'm the problem.


Posts: 42 | Registered: Apr 2014
justdoit
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well you didn't really think it was his fault did you? Some faithful betrayed spouses just don't get it!


Me - 60
WH - 67
Married 35 years
DDay - 5/14/09
He's reconciled, I'm in limbo.
"Stuck in the middle with you"

Posts: 159 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: Rocky Mountains
SpecialK
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just when you think, okay they've hit bottom, they can always find a lower level!

Posts: 310 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Florida
Broken1Again
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, it is your fault. Remember, he just accidentally tripped and fell into their vaginas. How can you not see that??!?! You meanie! Good for you for not spouting back at him with "ummm...maybe you should have thought the consequences through before you inserted your loser self into someone else's loser self Dufus!". Good for you! He wanted to engage you and it didn't work. He will stop eventually when he sees it won't work.


BS: 40
WS: 42
Two boys 13/11
Married 15 years
Dday: too Many to remember. 3 significant OW and many "less"'significant OW. Believe WS has bad boundaries and craves the attention.
In R.

Posts: 883 | Registered: May 2011
Truly
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Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, May 20th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seriously, he had to dig a hole to get that low!

FTG, crickets and let him wallow in his big steaming pile of secondary poo...poor ickle diddums...


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


Posts: 257 | Registered: Sep 2013
BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 6:42 AM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so glad you are strong enough to see it and know better. My heart sinks when I read a post from a BS and it's clear they are believing the shit sandwich being forced upon them. Good for you and keep it up!

Odds are, your ex's life is always going to be someone else's fault. Sounds fun.


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


Posts: 1893 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
I think I can
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My answer to the accustion that you threw him out would be:

"I sure as shit did. And stay out!"


I'm not the winner, I'm the prize.

Posts: 8827 | Registered: Jan 2008
No12turn2
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, I got that too. I didn't back down either. I actually think she gave up a lot that she could have fought for in court due to guilt. I guess that was a win, but I expect her to continue blaming me for how much her life sucks now. I will continue to politely remind her that this was her choice. No R was even considered and it's not my problem anymore.


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 526 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Know the feeling! My XSO blamed me for the business (we owned together) not doing as well after I left him and the business! No way were his years of screwing other women the cause of his misfortunes. Apparently I betrayed him by leaving. Oh, boy!


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


Posts: 7284 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
Breezy150
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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think they all have to have that victim's mentality to do what they did. He will move on to the next one he can blame for all that is wrong in his life.

I agree, good for you for not engaging, it had to be hard.


I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.

BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo


Posts: 544 | Registered: Feb 2014
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's amazing the power we BSs have. We can make our WS sleep with other people, lose their jobs, and alienate their children Just for kicks, tomorrow I'm going to make Dipshit's auto insurance rates rise!


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1861 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
forwardfromhere
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Cool  Posted: 8:01 PM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't advocate threatening violence because it could backfire on you, but it would've been pretty priceless to say "better the blowup mattress than a grave, which was the other option."

Posts: 34 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: forwardfromhere
whatnow8
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, May 21st (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just for kicks, tomorrow I'm going to make Dipshit's auto insurance rates rise!


wtf?? How insane does your life have to get that you want to polygraph your freaking HUSBAND. ~ OldCow18

It's hard to make a decision when you're too tired to hold on and too in love to let go. ~ unknown


Posts: 178 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: midwest
daisychains
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Default  Posted: 1:08 AM, May 22nd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh the poor guy - but I'm sure some hookers don't mind blow up beds.

As for "how far up his ass must his head be" - well obviously far enough up to lick his tonsils but not far enough to open his mouth and see daylight.


LTA 3.5 years

Posts: 83 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: uk
absolut
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Default  Posted: 1:28 AM, May 22nd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh let me clarify this, because I see some of you are confused.

It's not that we forced them to cheat.

It's that are we so mean, so bad, so awful, that even after they apologized, and said sorry, and promised to stop and not do it again.... we STILL would not give them any more chances!!! Which isn't fair because, hello, we're supposed to be married!!!


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