My "pity party" for one is thumping right now - I rarely get messaged. I don't think I'm that bad....but now I question myself - not good ...I have encountered all the cliches in the book - married, sex pests, scammers, and weirdos....
Now, I'm not interested. I'm going to focus on me, and if I come across a bloke, then great, if not....well, I'll survive. I feel sad, as I have a lot to offer someone...but I have to believe what is meant to be will be...
OK rant over, and back to my pity party for one
Divorcing - at last!
So definitely step away.
The earth managed to get overpopulated long before computers were invented. Take heart.
My quality of dates has become much better. Since the beginning of the year, I've gone out with 4 guys, 2 of which have turned into short relationships. Still with the second guy and it has been several weeks now.
It was very frustrating at first, and I took breaks in-between. But, I listened to the advice on SI, relaxed and kept trying.
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings
My BIL met over 100 ladies off of OLD before he met my sister.
But, if it's not for you, or not for you right now, it's good to get off since your feelings of negativity about it will transfer through your profile and will scare off any good guys (BTDT)
Sorry you had a rough experience, but don't feel like you have to swear it off forever -- there are always different sites, you can redo your profile, etc. Just make sure you're approaching it with a good attitude!
Married: 11 years, no kids
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo
The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed
I think old is pretty much the same in uk as the us...from reading everyone's stories
I don't think that any of the 40 guys I met off of OLD were married (though who knows since most of them were one date only) but I have had several guys try to make me the OW IRL.
OLD is just another way to meet people. For me, I refuse to date anyone at work, which is where I spend much of my time. None of my friends had any single guy friends who would be a match at all for me. I have a ton of hobbies and meet people through groups, but no one I wanted to date. It was just a way of expanding my options.
That being said, I had to frequently take longish breaks, as I'd despair for humanity. And if things with current guy end, I'll probably not get back on for 6 months or so.
Being single is pretty amazing, after all!