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User Topic: First Post from a Sex Addict
brainflag
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Default  Posted: 2:34 AM, May 22nd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It has been two months since the love of my life discovered my secret betrayal. I have read many posts on this site, and all have been helpful. I am not sure what I am looking for by posting, but any and all responses are welcome.

I love my wife more than words can say, and she is my best friend. I have crushed her spirits and broken her trust. I am doing everything I can to be gentle, help her heal, be transparent, etc.

My betrayal was through excessive internet pornography, strip clubs (including lap dances and VIP room session), several online dating profiles, and contacting escorts. I believe I have created a sexual addiction through years of heavy internet porn use and am currently in therapy. I don't like the term Sex Addict because it implies that I had no control over my actions, which is not true.

I have also been emotionally manipulative and abusive to her. I really wasn't even aware I was doing this to her until she analyzed our fights and pointed out several things I do in them.

I am very depressed, but nothing compares to how she is feeling. We were best friends and she believed she knew everything about me. I lied to her.

So here I am. She is open to R, but barely. I want to find integrity and be the man I know I can be. Things are very up and down. It's calm as of right now, and I feel driven to make changes for myself and hopeful that she will someday be able to trust again.


Posts: 3 | Registered: May 2014 | From: Seattle
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Default  Posted: 7:15 AM, May 22nd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome brainflag

It is good to see that you've recognized a problem in your life and you are addressing it with therapy. I think that you understand that you need to be honest with your wife on things. Listen to her and try to respond positively to her needs in this time. There might be slip ups as changing can be hard but keep working on yourself and keep trying to support your wife.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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