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User Topic: Having a bit of a moment today..... feeling lonely
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 10:51 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So....just a small whiney moment... all of my friends are busy..... my best friend always seems too busy for me... she makes a lot more money than me and her and her husband are always out and about doing awesome things and traveling and usually are too busy to hang out. My other friends are busy as well.... I am used to having human contact... I am grateful for my time with my daughter of course...and we will go to the park and maybe a bike ride later today. But, I am very extroverted and miss hanging out with friends and having adult time. But, it looks like this weekend I will be solo again. I just feel sad. I know it is what it is...

I guess because its an extended weekend..... it seems more noticable being alone. IDK...

I will stop venting now. Just needed a hug I think...

Time for a nap while the princess sleeps....


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((She11ybeanz))))


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

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Angeles85
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Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry Shelly. This long wknd is very triggering for me and I'm forcing myself to get up from bed. Ex and I were always going to camping on long wknds and this is the first one without him :(
Just hung in there, enjoy your kids. Virtual hugs for u.
(((Shelly)))

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get it. (((Shellybeanz)))


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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SBB
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get that way on my weekends without the girls.

Do you know any other single mums in your area? Are there any Meetups you could join or start one of your own?

I learned that I needed to augment my social circle as most of my friends are single and childless - a few are coupled with kids and I never see them because they don't get any non-family down time. I know no-one who is divorced with kids.

I started actively looking for single mum friends to hang out with. I met a few at daycare and at school. We do things with our kids together and we also have monthly Mummies After Dark nights, usually at someone's place.

I had a GF over to share movie night with my girls. We all made dinner together finished with home made chocolate custard with raspberries and then sat down to watch Frozen. She isn't really a kid person but adores my girls. She invited herself as I never think anyone wants to join in on this stuff but she loved it. I think I'll start inviting other friends over. It's easier when the kids are a little older.

(((Shelly))) I don't get lonely - I feel isolated. Being around others in the same boat makes me feel less isolated.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My married friends are awesome, but I found that finding "singles"-- especially single parents-- was really helpful. Someone is always up for an activity, a movie, a chat... With kids or without.

Need to find people in the same stage you are in.


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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 4:43 PM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry you are feeling lonely Shelly .


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Shelly))

Struggling here too. I have been sleeping a lot recently- a side benefit of depression, and it kills time.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, May 24th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ya'll are right..... I need to find more single parent friends....I either have single friends with no kids who are too busy with their social lives to hang out with a mom with a child....or married friends with kids who are too busy doing stuff with their family to hang out with me. I inevitably feel left out.

It sucks. It really does. I will have to look around and see what I can find.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 4:06 PM, May 25th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shelly,

Is parents without partners still around? They were a huge help in meeting other single parents.

If you can't find something, why not start a meetup group of single parents? I bet you'd be a great coordinator.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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million pieces
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Default  Posted: 6:59 AM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

S - When I had my son, I had moved into my house just the week before. I knew no one. At that point, I quit my job and became a SAHM. And my ex at the time would travel for a week, every other week. I was LONELY, bored, going crazy, and feeling very sorry for myself (possible baby blues). I ended up putting up signs in the local community stores for a mom's meet up at one of our neighborhood parks. 11 years later, some of my best friends were met that year. Recently, I can't see a single one of my friends. They are still mostly SAHMs, I work full time, have my kids' schedules and get zero help from my ex when I do have my kids the majority of time. My community has a Facebook page that I've toyed around with the idea of starting a single parent meetup. Maybe you could do something like that?


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 11
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((she11ybeanz)))
I know what you mean. Feeling pretty lonely myself these days. No kids. Very infrequent contact with my step-daughter. Most of my friends are married so socializing, heck even catching movie together, is difficult.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This popped up on my suggested pages from FB - thought I would put it here as Shelly came to mind.

SingleParentMeet.com

I know nothing about this site.

Hope it's positive for someone.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5252 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
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