This morning WH and I were laying on the lounge room floor with the kids snuggled up under blankets watching tv. It was really nice and I was lying there in the crook of his arm with my head on his chest when all of a sudden it hit me - she would have lay cuddled up to him after the had sex - they spent at least two separate nights together at hotels so I have no doubt that they would have. It sent me into a spiral and I can't get out of it.
I am also doubting a trip away he had where he has told me they spent their last night together but he was there for 3 nights and I know she was in the city for a fashion week thing (bluergh she is not a fashionista at all!) and now I am doubting they only had one night together. Why wouldn't they spend the whole time together?
I asked him about that trip and he says it is only the one night but I can't believe it so now it is like being told some more TT as I can't believe him.
And when I got really upset and was crying I told him about laying next to him and how I was feeling and he said they never lay like that together. Yeah that is crap - of course you would have - you just had mindblowing sex how ever many times over night - of course you layed in each others arms seeing you were so in love.
This is fucked. I believe him when he is remorseful, that he only wants me, that he will spend the rest of his life making it up to me, that he just wants me and our family, that he is so sorry and hates what he did to me.
But I can't get rid of what happened. How do I ever move on from that? I don't want to divorce him, but I don't know how to move forward. I would rather not wake up tomorrow - so I don't have to try to push these thoughts away everday. So I don't have to try to forgive someone for something I have always thought was unforgiveable. I just want it to have never have happened, but I know that can't be and I am so fucking pissed off that I have to live with the consequence of this. I almost wish he had just fucking left me when he told me and been with her. I might have one day gotten over him not wanting me anymore. Maybe I could have moved on. But now I know there is that 5 months that he didn't want me - he just wanted her. How can I get over that. I was supposed to be his only, we made promises to each other and he threw that all away for a 9 month EA/PA with her. How can I get over this.
I just don't even want to go on, but I have to for my kids - they don't deserve this anymore than I do. I just don't know how to be strong anymoreDD April Fools Day 2014 (unfortunately no joke)
BS (me) 40
OW - a friend of WH for 5 years
4 month EA which turned into a 5 month PA
Us together 20 years, married 17 and 6 kids
I always thought I was enough but obviously not!