If your WS is unremorseful, and you want to R, you have to choose between
1) suffering while your WS eats cake,
2) do the 180 now and possibly (well, probably) D later, and
3) D now and do the self-reclamation part of the 180 later (or stay in Victim, or...).
Son, I know that's a difficult message to hear, but I'd bet a lot that that's it - no other realistic choices.