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User Topic: Did you give back the gifts?
BrighterFuture
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have the jewelry which he gave me that I took to the pawn shop and was told it was worth nothing. He said it was so expensive(why am I surprised) but when I tried to sell it for cash, I couldn't. So, should I send it to him out of state or should I wait to give it back the next time I see him.
I also have his Bible. I think his empty soul might need it.

Did you guys give back the gifts?


Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!

"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.


Posts: 340 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Ohio
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nope.

The most I've given back is pictures of the kids.

Trash it, pass it on to some kids, donate it to Good Will, save it in a box for when you're feeling stronger.. I don't know, but I suggest you do NOT give it back to him.

They aren't his anyway, and it's not a good reason to contact him..


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

Posts: 2107 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
HoldFast
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like that guy with the blog and book called 101 uses for my ex-wife's wedding dress. He's pretty funny. He's used the dress in many hilarious ways. Like a Christmas tree skirt, a sports team banner, a scarecrow.

I wonder how many creative ways you could use the jewelry....?


Posts: 26 | Registered: May 2014
ThrownAwayTwice
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Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Haha, no. That stuff is mine. I didn't take back gifts I gave him, why give back gifts he gave me. He had good taste in jewelry, I still wear it. The meaning is gone, but the sparkle is still there. He also gave me small appliances, that I use regularly. They are useful and practical, why not use them to make my life more comfortable?


BW early 30's

Separated March 2014
No clue what current status is.. kind of don't care...


Posts: 58 | Registered: Apr 2014
Pass
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Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hell no! That's your stuff to do with as you please. Unless he offers you the opportunity to ram it up his puckered bud one piece at a time, there's no reason to involve him at all.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1833 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
absolut
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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No no no and no.

Look just because stores won't buy it from you doesn't mean it's worth nothing. The recession is here to stay and pawn shops are flooded with brand name high end stuff. You might have decent stuff but they aren't going to take up space in their case if it's not on their level.

Do you know what kind of stones and metal it is? Do you still have the papers? Do you have a cheap kitchen scale to weigh it?

I sell stuff on ebay. It's not as hard as you think. You won't get a ton of money but you can sell it. Take a lot of photos and describe it to the best of your ability. Look at other listings to get an idea of what to include in your description.

If you're talking about fine jewelry with smaller stones, like a tennis bracelet, it's going to be just a little money but still more than nothing.

Good luck. Personally I say sell it. But don't give it back, I found that any contact was just cause for him to start drama with me.


Posts: 421 | Registered: Dec 2012
BrighterFuture
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Default  Posted: 12:06 AM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So what about the Bible? It has his name on it " Asshit and Family" I use it a lot but I feel like I should give it back to him and buy another one for me. I can't throw away The Bible.

The jewelry, I will give to my sister. It's not particular my taste but wore it to please him. When I took it to the shop I was told that it was gold-cotted but not pure gold.


Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!

"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.


Posts: 340 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Ohio
LifeIsBroken
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Default  Posted: 12:19 AM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Instead of taking the jewelry to a pawn shop, take it to a shop that buys silver & gold. They'll weigh it and pay you what it's worth. I live in the city and there are probably 8 of those shops around here.


BW: 59
XH: 60
Married 34 yrs, LIBerated: 2/17/11
MOW: 50 (she said she wanted a sugar daddy; xh said, "I'M HIM!")
Actions ALWAYS have consequences. Too bad cheaters don't consider the consequences BEFORE they create so much damage.

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dmari
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Default  Posted: 12:56 AM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would send back the Bible. I would donate the jewelry. I got one necklace from stbx that I threw away because I personally felt I could not donate it or give to someone since it possessed negative/ugly energy.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2146 | Registered: Oct 2012
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 4:53 AM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would dump the jewellery over a bridge into a river somewhere.

I also have worthless jewellery plan to do the same thing with it but always have the kids and I need to be alone to do it. I feel like the jewellery has bad juju so the money (if any) gained would also be tarnished. But that's my opinion.

I would donate the bible to a goodwill.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1321 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Double post.

[This message edited by Kajem at 6:55 AM, May 27th (Tuesday)]


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5017 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 6:54 AM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did this bible mean something to him, once upon a time?

How long has he been out of the house? Has he asked for it?


If you have contact I might as him if he wants it.

If he recently moved out- I would box it up as if I was going to mail it. In the place where postage would go if put a date 6 months from now. If he forgot it, and asks - you can send it. If he doesn't ask in that time frame, then you can donate it.

Salvation Army and many homeless shelters are always looking for bibles.

Gifts - not his property.

Read your follow up post. Buy a bible for yourself!!! There are so many choices out there. Indulge yourself and take your time in selecting the perfect bible for you.

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5017 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would probably give the bible back, seeing as it's a family thing. It might mean something to someone in his family (see if they want it?).

The jewelry, if it's any sort of gold, sell it for scrap. That's what I did. If it's costume, cerimoniously throw it away. Again, that's what I did.


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2589 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hell no! I figured I'd earned it. He deserves nothing. I would have thrown something away before I would ever give him anything.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

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Posts: 3314 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Google "[your city name] estate jeweler " and try selling the ring there.

Even worthless is worth more than the postage to send it back to him.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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BrighterFuture
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Bible has his name on it. I can't give it to anyone even Salvation Army unless they tear the page which I don't think is the right thing to do.

He's been out of the house for 15 months now. I've been using it ever since.


Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!

"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.


Posts: 340 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Ohio
lovehonorcherish
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Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I left my wedding rings and a beautiful diamond necklace stbxh gave me this past Christmas (the necklace was supposed to represent the enduring bond of our love ) Wishing now that I had kept them to sell...going to take every penny I have to start over fresh.


I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change...I am changing the things I cannot accept.

Posts: 124 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Northeastern US
hurtyetstrong
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pass thank you for the much needed laugh!
Unless he offers you the opportunity to ram it up his puckered bud one piece at a time, there's no reason to involve him at all.


Me: BW (30)
Him: WH (31)
2 DDs - 4yrs & 18mo (as of May 2014)

multiple PAs

Filed for divorce May 16, 2014


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Sadmumma
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was given a bracelet for Christmas just gone that does not represent anything I cherish. I don't not want my girls to have it either.

I am tossing up either spelling it in eBay, or leaving it on a park bench for someone to "find". Not sure which one yet


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Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014

Posts: 535 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Land down under
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gifts? What is this word "gifts" that you speak of???


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sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
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