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User Topic: Open sharing passwords vs. spying
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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, May 29th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for encouragement. I did tell her that it bothers me that she changed her password (I did figure out the new one so I knew there was nothing she was actually hiding). She said she had to change it and gave me a new one even without being directly asked. It was all matter factly and we did not discuss our feelings about it, but still I think we had another positive step towards true R. thanks guys!

This is really good. Telling her what you felt was important, and her responding in a way to help you feel more secure. She can do that and still feel ashamed, embarrassed, etc.

The idea that one can spy on his/her spouse just means to me that there is a huge divide in the relationship. There shouldn't be secrets IMO. detail,

"You have insulted my footwear."

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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, May 29th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks again guys, we talked about it after work and she was all saying that sure it is ok for me to check, that she loves me is sorry and understand. Maybe we are in true R maybe it is all in the past ... Getting cautiosly but trully optimistic,

Me BH 50, seemingly married happily 25 years
Wife 47, had 3 PA affair, last one developed as EA but then turned PA and sporadic meeting 2 times a year at conferences but lasted for 8 years. Trying to reconcile.

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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, May 29th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My work makes me change passwords every 90 days

She does need to let you know though. It would be a huge red flag for me if he changed his.

Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

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