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User Topic: I forgot how to date!
MichelleRenee
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm like a kid again. I met an amazing guy a couple weeks ago. He's actually somebody I had known as a teen, casual friend at best, but haven't spoken to in 20 yrs. We've only been on two dates and text quite often. But I seriously don't know how to "just date". I was a wife for so long so I think my urge is to jump into "coupledom" which logically I know will scare him away. So how do I do this? How many dates before we get serious? He's also childless so how do I slowly integrate my kids into things? He's been great about me turning down offers to hang out due to the kids but I also want to be fair with my time with him. I guess I just need any advice on dating again & dating somebody without kids. Thanks!


Me - 37
lying cheating a-hole - 36
kids - 17,12,10
D-day 3/25/2013
Filed for divorce 3/26/2013

Posts: 66 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Chatsworth, Ca
cmego
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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, May 27th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Most advice is to NOT introduce the kids very early. Let the relationship develop and your kids ARE your priority, you can't change that.

Most of the time, people say "coupledom" when it becomes intimate, but that is up to you both. That is my line, when sex starts, we are a couple. I have that discussion early, so the guy knows what to expect.

As a full-time single Mom, I have to schedule my dates well in advance and the guy just has to get used to that…it is what it is.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4141 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
No12turn2
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, May 28th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I disagree that you no longer know how to date. I think you are finally armed with the experience and knowledge needed to know how to foster a relationship with another responsible human being.


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 526 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
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