When you read about 4-ways you never think it will involve a couple of lawyers. Either way, though, the chances of getting screwed are pretty high.
I asked my lawyer if I should bring anything other than a wall to bang my head on. She said that I don't need anything other than what I already provided...they can provide the wall.
Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.
MOS...you have the wrong forum. I think the 4-way you're thinking of would be more likely to pop up in the New Beginnings forum.
Didn't seem like your typical S/D topic, no.
So, meeting with 2 lawyers and your stbxw? Ativan, stressball, helmet, cross, garlic, and silver bullets should have you covered. Good luck!
It helped ease my anxiety and reminded me that I was not defenceless against this blood sucking parasite.
A sock full of coins might also do the trick...but garlic is definitely better against the blood sucking variety.
In court, it had to all be extended or continued because I actually caught Perv and his lawyer trying to fix the papers in a way that we did not agree at the 4 ways. It is for tax purposes. And my notes for the judge saved the "problem".
I wrote every single thing down for my own records -it's just how I am-but at some meetings my lawyer didn't have this or that and I did. Then I brought the papers and notebook to the next ones, also and kind of like in counseling, could follow better what was happening.
For me, anyway, it got to be some very quick conversations and it helped to have to read later, also. I learned with the two lawyers that they would bring papers only for the meeting at hand, where I brought everything and it could get done sooner that way. It even happened today in court.
Also, one thing I learned today, is that sometimes they slip things in the agreement on the last day before signing, so read, read read! And then, read it one more time! By doing this, I saved a major thing in our lives today and if I had just signed it today, would've lost huge. A one liner, little blurb at the end of a paragraph that I only noticed because it was a different shaped paragraph.
[This message edited by Ashland13 at 9:13 PM, May 27th (Tuesday)]
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
The 4 way was held in XH's lawyers office. I liked that every time I wanted to talk to my lawyer in private - they had to get up and leave. I know it's petty. For once I had him jumping up and down at my discretion.
And I've always expected a bill for the tissues!