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User Topic: Do you read the old text messages?
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Default  Posted: 7:01 AM, May 29th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't get to as he deleted everything and I couldn't get the Facebook messages back. Part of me is glad because it would have hurt more, but I still feel like they have the complete puzzle and I only have part of it. I am sure what I imagine isn't even half as bad as what the real thing would be, which is why he deleted them :(

DD April Fools Day 2014 (unfortunately no joke)

BS (me) 40
WH 38
OW - a friend of WH for 5 years

4 month EA which turned into a 5 month PA

Us together 20 years, married 17 and 6 kids

I always thought I was enough but obviously not!

Posts: 217 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Australia
Member # 41986
Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, May 29th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

my wife deleted almost everything long before i ever found out about her affairs. what she missed are emails she sent to herself. those emails are haunting.
yes, ive read them over and over. yes, ill continue reading them over and over hoping that maybe one day i can understand it all.
as painful as they are, im not sorry that i read them. they provide a much more nuanced view into what she thinking and feeling then the sanitized version i get from her. also, although they appear to be part fantasty they dont have IDK or ICR amongst them.

me - bh
her - lara01

from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA

??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys

Posts: 582 | Registered: Jan 2014
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, May 29th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Four years later I still struggle with this topic. Their were almost 6000 text messages in six weeks between WH and cOW. I did not see any except the ones I found on DD#2. WH was deleting as they were texting by that point, but he fell asleep before he deleted the last two of them saying goodnight and they could not wait to see each other in the morning.

My struggle is WH upgraded phones in the middle of the A. His old phone is still here and if I understood how to pull the text messages off I am fairly sure they are there since he did not text anyone except cOW. I think about those messages all the time. I desperately want to read those messages.

Me - BW 40
Him - FWH 39
Her - MOW 47 Fat Assed Toothless Man Faced Whore!!!

DD#1 July 28, 2010 Admitted to EA. A went underground.
DD#2 August 19,2010 Admitted PA

Posts: 1006 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Michigan
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Member # 38597
Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, May 29th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, I just went through his email and found a conversation he had with another female friend soon after DD.

I'm pissed off all over again. Her immediate reaction was 'was it something I did? No? Wow, what a cool wife you have."

DDay Feb. 28, 2013
"I am pretty sure enforcing the boundary is the most important part of the boundary"- Jerry Seinfeld
Can't wait to D, but stuck financially until I find a way out of this SAHM position I'm in.

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