Shelly from some of your other posts you appear to get this reaction in real life from other people such as your colleagues too, have you brought this up with your IC?
Well the one situation where that one coworker was rude to me seemed to come out of nowhere. I think it came from me being very thorough with my work so if I have a problem or need something to be fixed, then I go to the source and I work with them to fix it! I was working with her on some adjustments I needed for a bank rec and she has only been here about 6 months or so.....so I just explained what I needed done to fix it but I had to go back a few times because she had questions as well and then she snapped on me in front of another coworker. She said I was bothering her too much and I apologized and told her that our boss had asked me to go back and ask her these questions and I was sorry I bothered her and she said, "But, you just keep doing it huh!"
It was uncalled for....but I let it go. I didn't see a point in fighting with her or being a tattle tail and getting her in trouble. I wrote it off as her being new and everything being overwhelming and complicated. I remember feeling that way too when I started so I was empathizing with her frustration. Maybe she was having a bad day? I don't know. It happens to all of us. But, my other coworkers heard it and came to my defense. Four of them. I was floored by the support....and very humbled as well.
I usually don't get such an adverse reaction by people in real life. I'm a very good people person normally and tend to make friends with strangers! I can talk to literally anyone without a flinch.... but I'm not good at defending myself.
My IC says that I'm wayyy too hard on myself and I have a high guilt complex. It doesn't take much to make me feel bad about myself or for me to feel bad about any decisions I make that aren't perfect. I am my worst critic and toughest competitor. She said that I need to not feel so bad about things. When I told her about that date.....I fully expected her to scold me like a child....but she was surprised I expected that....and had the opposite reaction. I think I'm very emotionally gun shy after the A...the divorce...Piper's father poofing out of her life....and just in general. I've always been emotional.....my whole life... but now I'm just more hyper aware of my sensitivity as I wasn't emotionally mature enough in the past to recognize it.
Gosh....I address EVERYTHING with my IC. I can't believe I started seeing her when I was just a few months pregnant and now my daughter is almost 2. She is practically family!
Thank you Innerlight....I appreciate your kind words. "Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12