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User Topic: Not as big as a karma bus, but a schadenfreude scooter, maybe?
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Three funny moments of life in a small town with an AP a few blocks away:

The universe has a funny sense of humor. About a month ago, my car (very well known to the AP and her family) died while my husband was driving it to work. It happened to fail right at the crossroads of the street her house is on and a main thoroughfare. H had to leave it there on the side of the road, which virtually ensured that she rounded the corner from her house to take the kids to school in the morning and faced -- my car. Talk about a heart punch! Karma 1 = AP 0

AP teaches classes occasionally at the local gym. My heart sank when I saw she was teaching a new class, as I knew it was a boost to her tiny little ego. They keep a tally of the attendance of the classes on the equipment door, and over the past months I have seen her class at an all-time high of 5 (one of which was her husband, and one a friend) to 3 to 2 to. . . no class. Class cancelled due to lack of interest. Karma 2 - AP 0

Finally, our minister is leaving, and for a going-away party, I got a request to "man" the AP's chocolate fountain from an unsuspecting congregation member. I had to laugh out loud at that one. . .sure, I'll sit and make sure APs chocolate fountain works properly.
Anyway, I declined, another friend (who knows about the affair) was asked (she declined) and finally they must've found someone to do it. It was there today, and worked a grand total of 5 minutes, maybe. The cheap-ass chocolate seized up, and was a gloppy mess. A total PITA for the people helping. The kids were sad, but Karma 3 - AP still 0.

I wish I were a bigger person and that these things didn't make me happy. . .but, I guess I am entitled to a little Schadenfreude.

OTOH, my H is in line for a big promotion. I don't know what is up with that, only that maybe his totally getting his sh&t together after dday, and manning up and being a good husband, may be paying off. The AP has been a self-serving, narcissistic wench since dday. . .so maybe it isn't just the mistakes we make, but what we choose to do afterwards that matters. I am not going to get cocky, though. I am sure the OBS would like some karma action of his own.

[This message edited by bionicgal at 3:10 PM, June 1st (Sunday)]


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is a personal crisis, not a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


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TrulySad
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice!!! I know how those moments feel, and it's important to enjoy each and every one of them! I'm happy for you


Me: Sad, but I will survive

True Love: What I have for my beautiful children.


Posts: 456 | Registered: Jun 2013
TrulySad
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice!!! I know how those moments feel, and it's important to enjoy each and every one of them! I'm happy for you


Me: Sad, but I will survive

True Love: What I have for my beautiful children.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

schadenfreude scooter


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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918Mama
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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is there a fun little beep with the scooter to let you know it's coming?? In my head now, I just hear "meep meep" and then the impact of the scooter.

I think on the bigger scale it's nice to see this so you can feel like maybe the universe does right the ship and also (more importantly) as a reminder to all of us to keep our own shit together so that karma doesn't bitch slap us!

Glad you got a little vindication!!

[This message edited by 918Mama at 4:13 PM, June 1st (Sunday)]


Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be. -- Sonia Ricotti

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Losconang15
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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LOL at the "meep meep"

Way to go karma :) I like her


Together - 14 years
Married - 7 years
DDay- Jan 15, 2014. WH had EA/PA

Hopeful reconciliation.


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AML04
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Default  Posted: 6:09 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice!! And I see nothing wrong with you taking a little pleasure in it

Eta: OW put up a post on FB that said "Karma is only a bitch if you are". So oblivious!!! Since dday she's been arrested on a bench warrant (driving unregistered/uninsured) and 3 of her pets have died. I feel bad for the animals but not her!

[This message edited by AML04 at 6:12 PM, June 1st (Sunday)]


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 875 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 11:50 PM, June 1st (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She attends your church???? You have to look at her across the assembly when you're supposed to be thinking about God?? No. Fucking. Way. Well kudos to you because I could not have done that.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2242 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
BrokenheartedUK
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Default  Posted: 2:11 AM, June 2nd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Enjoy these moments! With all the crap you've suffered it's the least that the universe can give you.


Dday: 4th of January, 2014
WH 50
BS 49
18 years of marriage...three children
One affair PA/EA
"You didn't see me I was falling apart, I was a television version of a person with a broken heart." The National

Posts: 236 | Registered: May 2014
LivinginLimbo
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Default  Posted: 6:22 AM, June 2nd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OTOH, my H is in line for a big promotion. I don't know what is up with that, only that maybe his totally getting his sh&t together after dday, and manning up and being a good husband, may be paying off.

I can relate to this part. For a number of years, my FWH's annual work reviews were satisfactory. The review following D-Day was outstanding. When he told me about it, I remarked that perhaps it was due to him focusing on his job instead of his cheating. I saw the light bulb go off in his head and he agreed.

A year and a half later, he got a nice promotion/raise. Another eye-opener for him. For seven long years he thought he kept his cheating separate from everything else. It clearly impacted everything.

I do hope that your H does get the promotion. If he does, maybe you can get a good quality chocolate fountain for your church.


BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

Posts: 1049 | Registered: Mar 2012
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, June 2nd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Living in L - that is hilarious about buying a chocolate fountain for the church. If I didn't think they were totally faux-elegant and pretentious, I'd do it.

I like real chocolate way too much to be a part of that! We're all about authenticity here these days, and not gimmicks.

And, love the "meep, meep!"

[This message edited by bionicgal at 4:17 PM, June 2nd (Monday)]


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is a personal crisis, not a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


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