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User Topic: pet peeves? What's yours?
kate0421
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Default  Posted: 9:28 AM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So as I am sitting here trying to get this laundry together I though I would start a thread on your biggest pet peeves with your spouse. What's your top 3 pet peeves?
Mine
1. WS works outside in construction which only makes this worse. He takes his dirty socks off in a way they roll up in a ball. So not only do I find socks in all the corners of my house but I get to spend my time unrolling all his nasty socks to wash them.
2. He will wear a shirt or shorts for maybe an hour or to just run to the store, then throws them beside the dirty laundry baskets not in the dirty laundry "because they are not dirty"
3. Somehow it always seems he has to take a nasty dump everytime I am in the shower... never fails. Morning or night
I could prob go on and on... but today these are just killing me softly.


ME: BS
HIM: WS
Together over 10yrs
2 children
DDAY 9/23/2013- 2 ONS (2009-2010)
TT. 5/14/2014- slept with OW1 twice

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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband is pretty anal, so cleaning/laundry is a non issue here.

BUT my pet peeve wrt him is whenever we have plans he decides an hour before it's time to leave to start a project, washing the car, mowing the lawn.

Because in his mind it takes him 5 minutes to shower and that leaves all that extra time to get something done...

BTW: it does NOT take him 5 minutes to shower.

Drives.Me.Crazy!!


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Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Kate))))

I have a few, one is my wonderful darling kitty always takes a stinky dump in her litter box in the morning while I'm in the shower, or getting ready for work. (her box is in our bathroom, and she is the stinkiest cat I have ever known).

Don't even get me started on the laundry issue. I solved some of those issues years ago. I do not turn stuff right side out when I wash it, and if your socks are in a stinky ball that's how they get washed. If they don't come clean, that is not my problem. I also don't pair up socks. I have a giant basket that they go in, you need em, you do your own. I'm a real laundry bitch.

Dirty dishes in the sink are something that sends me to crazy land. I can not stand it. The level of Lazy it takes to not put them in the dishwasher right next to the sink is just unfathomable.

Lastly no ice. If there is no Ice make some. We have a semi functioning Ice maker, so we use old fashioned Ice trays to supplement. If I come home from work, and there is no ice for me to have a drink (water or alcoholic) then there is going to be hell to pay.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I see that "Husbands" lead the 'pet peeves' so far ...


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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 9:53 AM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dirty dishes in the sink are something that sends me to crazy land. I can not stand it. The level of Lazy it takes to not put them in the dishwasher right next to the sink is just unfathomable.

That's something my SO would say about me and the kids. But.... I did load and run the dishwasher this morning!!!

throws them beside the dirty laundry baskets not in the dirty laundry "because they are not dirty"

I do this too. Well, the clothes go on a table next to the basket when they are worn but not quite dirty.

A pet peeve of mine related to SO - he doesn't check the fridge for garbage when he takes the trash out. But I do appreciate that he takes the trash out in the morning before he goes to work. I'm usually sleeping at this time, so I can't remind him to check the fridge!

I'm sure there are more, but I try not to dwell on the annoying habits. I'd rather encourage the good parts and be appreciative of them!!


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IrishGirlVA
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thankfully I don't have to deal with this anymore but here were mine --

Bottle caps laying around. If you are in the kitchen anyway getting a beer or soda out of the fridge, take off the cap in there and throw it away. Instead they were in the living room, bedroom or bathroom. Sometimes on the floor and when I stepped on one (especially the beer bottle caps) it would take all I had inside me not to bash him upside the head.

Would never bring home my reusable lunch containers. Never.

Had the inside out clothes and balled up sock issues too. But I guess I'm a laundry bitch too because however you give me the clothes to wash is how you are getting them back.

He would eat pretzels on the couch. The stick kind. He's put a handful in his mouth and only 80% of them would actually make it. The other 20% landed on the floor or between the cushions.

I have so many many more but I'll stop here.


Me, the "B": 42yo
Him, the "W": 38yo
DDay: June 2013
Status: Over

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I see that "Husbands" lead the 'pet peeves' so far ...

The original poster specifically asked what are our biggest pet peeves with our spouse.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I solved some of those issues years ago.

I did too. Everyone in my household does his/her own laundry. The results of that are yours to own. If you fail to do your laundry, it is not my job to figure out what you're going to wear, etc.

ETA:
My kids have done their own laundry since they were 9yrs old or so.
With hubby, if I have room in my load, I'll ask if he has anything pressing of his that he wants me to toss in (and vice versa). Otherwise, it is every man/woman for himself.

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 11:05 AM, June 3rd (Tuesday)]


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for cl


Posts: 6680 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
No12turn2
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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sometimes I think my XWW was a man. She stayed home for 12 years (by choice) and didn't really do much of anything. Just enough to keep me off her back. I eventually started doing my own laundry, and it stayed that way for 10 years. She also wouldn't cook after she found out I liked to do it. Turned into another chore for her that she wasn't willing to do. I payed all the bills, and I don't just mean I made the money. I actually sat down and did the budget and payed the bills. I cleaned on the weekends and cut the grass. It felt like there was no teamwork at all. I can certainly say that was the case now that it is all said and done. I just finished washing the piles of laundry my children had stacked up everywhere. Didn't know if they were clean or dirty. Just piled up wherever there was room. This was the way she washed clothes. "Oh, you need pants to wear today? go check that mountain of clothes over there."


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow Gaby. My kids have done their own laundry about as long, and I have the same rules.

However I do wash my and H's clothes together, and if there is stuff sitting on the washer when I arrive to do a load I will add it in. If it's in the load I pull out I will fold it, now it may be inside out, or dirty, but it will get folded.

I'm not even sure H knows how to make those machines work. LOL He will fix them when they break, but to actually make them work to do a load of wash, I'm not so sure. LOL


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Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tushnurse- I figured my husband was a bachelor for at least 15yrs before we married, so putting a ring on my finger shouldn't erase his memory on how to do household chores.

We each have a specific night during the week that we prefer to do our laundry, so leaving/finding things in the dryer is rare.

ETA:
Don't be surprised if, when your kids head off to college, that they are one of few among their peers who know HOW to do their own laundry.
My daughter, in her first year away, was shocked that her roommates didn't have a clue.

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 1:05 PM, June 3rd (Tuesday)]


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 1:10 PM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't mind to wash laundry, but I HATE putting it away. My H will say, oh, just put it [insert place], I'll put it up." Then he NEEEEVER puts it up. And when I ask him about it, he'll say, "Oh, that pile of clothes? I didn't realize it was clean."

He also works from home, and he likes to sit on the couch with his laptop, and the table next to the couch is always full of plates and cups and soda cans and stuff.

Also he takes off his socks just wherever he happens to be and leaves his size 13 shoes in the middle of the floor. I trip on them constantly, because I'm graceful! My daughter does the same thing with her socks. I feel like the sock fairy, traipsing through the house and picking them up.

He does keep our yard and garden looking absolutely great and he will bust his ass "binge-cleaning" when he gets in the mood, so I let the other stuff slide.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

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Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The original poster specifically asked what are our biggest pet peeves with our spouse.

Yeah, I know.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't have a spouse so my biggest pet peeve is landscaping blowers (or whatever you call them.) Why can't someone make a baffle for them?? They are the noisiest things! Whatever happened to rakes?? And you kids get off my lawn!!

The second noisiest appliance is a vacuum cleaner. I have to wear ear plugs-the noise hurts my ears. However, this is not a huge problem because my 3rd biggest pet peeve is...

Me I'm a slob. I never clean--hate it! It's a good thing I live alone; otherwise, someone here would be complaining about me.


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I see that "Husbands" lead the 'pet peeves' so far ...

I'm sure my husband would have plenty of pet peeves to choose from regarding me!


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

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MindMonkey
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Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll be the stereotypical male here:

1. Pretty much always 10 minutes late when leaving the house. Being late isn't the problem. The last few minutes is a nightmare of changing clothes, fussing with her hair, using bathroom, etc. She's so hectic it really stresses everyone out.

2. Forgetting/mixing dates & times up. Just yesterday she asked me to take DS to the dentist. Left work early, took him in only to find the appointment was next week. That stuff happens alot.

3. Asking me what she should wear to an event. As in "what do you think the other ladies will be wearing"? How would I know? That is squarely in your domain. I'll tell you if it looks nice but don't ask if it's appropriate.


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FWW, EA/PA (x2) different OM coworkers
Reconciling since 8/1/13
100% ready to file at next dealbreaker...don't test me.

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TheRealDeal
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Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

another laundry pet-peeve....

while I appreciate he doesn't trek thru with dirty clothes, he sheds them after walking in the front door and puts them on top of the recycle bin next to the kitchen table. Or, if he has only worn the shirt/pants for short amount of time, he drapes them over the kitchen chairs with the intent to wear them again...which rarely happens so they pile up.

There were so many clothes on the chairbacks the other day they kept tipping over backward...and he wondered why! I gathered everything and piled on top of his side of bed...he was not a happy camper when he came upstairs that night but they got sorted and put away

other than the dirty laundry we are on same page of neat, clean, streamlined household


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together 18 years
DDay1 March 2013, Dday2 April 27, 2013, Dday3 June 1, 2013
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Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. Laundry. Or, more specifically where he puts it. On the bedroom floor. The laundry basket is right there but he leaves dirty clothes right in front of it.

2. Wet towels on the floor.

3. Kids leaving plates and cups everywhere. I found one in the bathroom the other week!

3. Lego. Diecast Hot Wheels cars. Plastic superhero action figures. My feet have puncture holes.


Me - 27
Him - 27
Madhatters

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His Dday - 23/12/13

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pet hair.
With 5 pets in our home, it is a constant battle to stay on top of it. More than a day between vacuuming/dusting and it looks like it snowed in my living room.

My darling, darling hubby for all the great "little" things he does for me and the kids, is slowly driving me to drink with the trail of clothing, dishes, and general mess he leaves in his wake.
If I get home first, he's better about putting things away since he can feel me staring a hole in his back.
If HE gets home first though...I can walk in the door and follow the trail of where he's been.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Posts: 6680 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, June 3rd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why I can hear him chew or smack.

When cooking, banging cabinets loud,actually everything is loud when he cooks.

Nasty smelly farts in bed

Turning music up so loud that the stuff shakes upstairs.

Paper trail everywhere.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

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