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Betrayeduk
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is texting now and all I can think is "who"? 😕

Posts: 36 | Registered: Jun 2014
Schadenfreude
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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I know that feeling. And when late night texts arrive. Even though W is on call 24 hrs/day for work.

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you have full transparency? Do you have his passwords? Do you have access to the cell account online?

Transparency is a MUST if you are going to stay together.

If it were me? Even with full access, I'd walk right over, casually, and snap that phone right out of his hands and take a look. If it's innocent...cool. If it's not...you need to know RIGHT NOW. If he doesn't like it? Too bad,so sad. Having a wife who doesn't trust you is one of the consequences of being a cheating husband.


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7161 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
confused615
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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh...I see..it's a work phone and you have no access. Why not? I understand some company issued phones are top secret. But not for you, his wife. You don't want access because you're trying to steal company secrets.

He can..and should..give you access to his work phone.

Oh...but wait! Let me guess! THAT would be against the rules...right? And he wouldn't dream of breaking the rules his company set up...or he might get in trouble or lose his job..right?

NOW he's alllll about following the rules,huh?

Fuck that noise.

You are his wife. He cheated. According to your profile, texting and his phone were a huge part of his affair.

No. FULL access to ALL phones and accounts..

Bitch boots...you need them.


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7161 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Betrayeduk
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Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The problem is I confronted him months ago and everything was denied. The phone tonight was his own and that is the one I don't access. He says I should trust him. But I've seen too many texts to be able to. For whatever reason I am scared to fight again.

Posts: 36 | Registered: Jun 2014
heme
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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, June 5th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Id walk over, take the phone and read the texts.. If they are innocent then there shouldn't be an issue. If they aren't then hes caught..

Sorry, cheating spouses don't get trust for a long time.. if ever.


BS: Me (30)
WS: Husband (31)
Married 8 years, together 9
D-Day: Sept 10, 2013
D-Day2: May 31, 2014
Children: 5, ages 7, 5, 3, 1 and due in September

Leaning towards leaving, no one deserves this pain.


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