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broken2
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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, I'm on one OLD site. What is up with guys posting 100 pics of themselves with "the catch of the day" or shirtless, or "the catch of the day" AND shirtless??? I get that you like fishing, really I do. My father was a great fisherman and told me he felt more at peace with the world and himself when he was on the water. But really!!! I don't need 100 photo's of you and in all of your glory (well almost) and something you just pulled out of the water.

Another thing I don't get. Why after only maybe 3 messages are you asking me for my phone number to text or call me? There is no way to tell if you are an ax murderer or some random yahoo looking for a thrill to stalk me. I guess we really never know, but after 3 messages back and forth?? Really??

Am I overreacting here? If all your posting is half naked pictures of you and some fish, amphibian or reptile or asking me for my number after 3 messages then I'm not interested, because I secretly know you're inviting me to some snake ceremony and calling that a romantic first date.

Seriously, WTH?? Are these guys serious? Who do they think are going to go out with them???


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Charity411
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Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think I kind of know why fish pictures are so prevelant. It's the most common form of a picture taken of a person just by themselves. I have a fish picture of me, and I only went fishing about 3 times. It was a damn nice fish too. Otherwise, most pictures are taken with kids or buddies or whatever.

But I don't get the shirtless thing either. To my thinking, the no shoes, no shirts, no service rule applies to trying to court someone on line as well as in person.


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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's also a quote from somewhere, "Plenty of fish in the sea." It's my thought that the fish photos may have something to do with the reference.

There's a dating site, too, called "POF" for "Plenty of Fish". Many of its male members are shown in all their glory, or with shirts on, with a big actual fish.

After a while of "dating", or what my father would call, "modern dating", there is a pattern and it seems to have some of what you mention.

Do you notice a lot of asking for pictures right away? And then some of them ask often, as if it's something done in a very short time.

One I got a message from had an actual snake around his neck and the Elvis impersonator, though I like Elvis music, well, I didn't reply. Lol.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 12:55 PM, June 6th (Friday)]


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A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you don't like their photos…don't email with them. They think you are interested. I see dead animals in their photos or shirtless photos…we are not a match. I simply say, "Thanks for the email, but I don't feel a connection. Good luck!"

But, yeah, if I'm interested in a guy, I would talk to them after a few days of emails. But, I always ask for their full name and give them mine after they do and do a hard Google search before talking with them.

You don't want to email/text very long before meeting them. I'd say at least 50% of the time there is no physical interest on one of the sides and you've wasted a ton of time and/or become emotionally attached to someone you don't like in person.


me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced


Posts: 4231 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
soulsearcher4
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another thing I don't get. Why after only maybe 3 messages are you asking me for my phone number to text or call me? There is no way to tell if you are an ax murderer or some random yahoo looking for a thrill to stalk me. I guess we really never know, but after 3 messages back and forth?? Really??

Actually, if I was interested, I would want to meet in person. After a few messages I would ask for your phone number because that's the next step before actually meeting in person.

The pictures I can't help you, but the messages that's in line with my expectations. You can always say no, but then what are you waiting for? You don't really know anything about anyone talking through emails, regardless of how many.


Me: BS
Her: WS

Divorced.

Remarried to a supremely wonderful person!


Posts: 176 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: So.Cal.
MyVoice
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Default  Posted: 4:46 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I was OLD no shirt equalled no contact for me, but I get the wanting to talk quickly.

Once you've had a few from text to voice contacts you'll realise how much a person can hide behind the written word and most likely be wanting to talk asap so you don't waste weeks on someone who writes like a prince and speaks like a gutter rat.


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
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