***ETA: Sorry for the spelling error in the title ***
This is venty.
We are a little past 2 years from Dday - R is going well, but I have to say the continuing consequences of the crazy I invited into our lives never seems to end.
In the last month, two bizarre situations have interrupted our otherwise strong path to R.
First, OM's BFF blocked me in my car, and gleefully insisted that I "couldn't escape him now", and he cared so much about me and my BH, and wanted us all to be great friends.
We are NC with this person, and any close friend of OM. When he refused to back off, I lost it a little bit and told him he was complete idiot, I would never associate with him, and to basically F-off. Then I called the police, as I have told him several times to leave me alone. Word on the street is he "thought" my BH was abusing me (because why else would I be NC with him?), and that I was too afraid to tell anyone, and he wanted to be the KISA. Idiot.
Then, a couple of weeks ago, OM's teenager came into our business, asking for a summer job. My BH took her outside, and flat out told her that I am at the workplace frequently, and that he would not be comfortable having her as an employee, given the circumstances (of which she is fully aware). She responded by saying SHE had forgiven me, therefore she saw no problems with working there.
Now, this girl has watched her Mom suffer through numerous DDays, is aware of multiple OW, and yet seems to be oblivious to my BH's triggers, and completely contemptuous of his healing timeline.
I am angry for my BH. He is really good at putting things in perspective and moving forward, but I am outraged that people so close to the situation have so little compassion for him and what he is going through.
Do others have problems enforcing NC? Is NC considered to be "unhealthy" or "unenlightened" by some people?
Thanks for your thoughts.