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User Topic: Like a million bucks!
marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 4:43 PM, June 6th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's how I've been feeling ever since the ex and I went to divorce court. Without even realizing I was doing it, I was losing weight (in a healthy way by making better food choices and working out, not because of stress) and suddenly clothes I hadn't worn in a while fit me again, and I got a few new ones besides. I started taking more time in the mornings to get ready for work and began wearing my high heels again.

Don't get me wrong -- I didn't "let myself go" while I was married -- but I definitely sank into a depression towards the end of the marriage when I didn't know what was wrong that caused me to dress in darker colors, get less sleep, and just not shine quite as brightly if you know what I mean.

Now, people are frequently commenting that I'm "glowing," or that they "like how I look today," etc. I've never thought of myself as beautiful, but it feels nice to keep getting all these compliments.

On Wednesday, I wore a new blouse that I found when I went shopping on Memorial Day. Three total strangers told me that day (two women, one man) that I had beautiful eyes...one of the ladies even said they were "blazing." And I had wondered if the blouse had been a good choice or not, but I'm definitely wearing it again, and soon! Ha ha

I didn't know where I could express these happy feelings, and then I realized that this was the perfect place for it. New beginnings, right?

I know I'm not ready to date yet, but all the same it's good to be alive and free and looking your best, isn't it?


BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Oct 2013
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, June 7th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you found your mojo back!

Posts: 1006 | Registered: Jul 2012
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, June 7th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have goose bumps from this post!

You look fabulous because your power is shining through. You are rocking the surviving part of this!!


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5859 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
persevere
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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a great post! You're inspiring marlie!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4607 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks!
I feel kind of like this now: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39YUXIKrOFk

LOL

No, but really, being free of the Rat is so liberating, it makes me want to strut!


BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Oct 2013
norabird
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this! You're finding yourself again and realizing how beautiful she is, and others are responding to that.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4196 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That was one of the most surprising things during the D....was one day looking into the mirror and actually seeing someone I had not seen in a long time.

(Granted....I was not "blazing".... ...but I definitely know what you mean)


Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.


Posts: 2177 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
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