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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((NIK and family)))))

So sorry to hear this.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 4:17 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending prayers and positive thoughts for you and your dad.

(((Empress, dad, and family)))


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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tired girl
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wishing you and your family peace and healing.


Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

Posts: 4957 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope he pulls through.


(((NIK)))


Posts: 1694 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
5454real
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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((NIK and family))))

Sending you guys strength. You know you will be in my prayers.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
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― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2869 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 12:46 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers NIK.

Is it bleeding diverticula?


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 8:20 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying.
(((NIK, NIK's dad, DD15, family)))


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D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK and Dad, and family))))

PJ you beat me to the punch.

That's a lot of blood to get.
Hope things are better today.

(((and strength, and healing))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

{{{NIK and family}}}


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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abbycadabby
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs and prayers.

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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending positive thoughts for your dad and you. ((NIK & Dad))


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

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AgainandAgain
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Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending all the positive thoughts I can!

((((((NIK, Dad and family)))))))


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking about you today, love.


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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry (((NIK)))


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

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Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh NIK

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

(((hugs)))


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
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Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((nik)))

you all are in my thoughts and prayers.


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Posts: 5936 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it bleeding diverticula?
No. He's got inoperable kidney cancer that causes significant bleeding. In addition to that, he has hypertension, type 2 diabetes, obesity, a history of blood clots, and a near pathological tendency to underplay any pain, discomfort, or other symptoms.

Roughly 10 years ago suffered a near-fatal pulmonary embolism. He was placed on blood thinners at that point. About 3 years ago his cancer was diagnosed. The mass on his kidney causes a significant amount of bleeding and has impacted his kidney function to the point where he's in congestive heart failure as well. As the bleeding became problematic, Dad made the decision (after consulting with several doctors) to wean off the blood thinners. A clot could show up again and throw a wrench into things, but the immediate concern of the bleeding was the bigger issue.

His hemoglobin has been monitored with weekly blood draws and maintained as needed with blood transfusions. When all this started, he would only need a transfusion every month or so, and usually a unit or two would bring his numbers up to reasonable levels. For the past year, however, the mass has been growing, the bleeding has increased, and he's needed weekly transfusions. He usually gets 2-3 units, but on a few occasions, he's needed 4. There's terrible edema after the transfusions, and he has had issues with the skin on his legs breaking down and sometimes developing infections. So that's the back story.

When I saw him on Friday and Saturday (after he had received the 6 units on Thursday), he was exhausted, but ok. By Saturday night he was not responding to staff, so they transported him to the hospital, where they discovered he had another infection, and his hemoglobin was very low again - around 8. They started him on IV antibiotics and gave him another 3 units of blood yesterday. That's 9 units in 4 days.

He was not himself when we saw him yesterday. Confused about who we were, told us the nurses were trying to scam him out of his medicines, and told the woman setting up his transfusion that he was expecting his wife shortly.

We know that given the delicate balance of all his conditions, it would not take much to tip him into an unrecoverable spiral. We're waiting for an update on his conditions after this morning's rounds and tests.

Thank you again for all the support and mojo. You guys are the best.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending more prayers.

(((NIK and family)))


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52320 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Big big hugs and prayers for all of you


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's terrible edema after the transfusions, and he has had issues with the skin on his legs breaking down and sometimes developing infections.
That happened with my Aunt, due to a different cancer and treatments. We kept her legs tightly wrapped (starting at the ankles and going as high as we could up her thigh) in an attempt to keep the swelling down.

I hope your dad shows some improvement today. I'll be keeping you both in my thoughts.


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