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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We kept her legs tightly wrapped (starting at the ankles and going as high as we could up her thigh) in an attempt to keep the swelling down.
They do this with Dad as well. Compression hose alone are not sufficient. The wrapping they do for him is almost cast-like.


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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((NIK))))))
Sending you prayers.


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((( NIK and family )))


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They do this with Dad as well. Compression hose alone are not sufficient. The wrapping they do for him is almost cast-like.
Yes, same thing. It's somewhat effective. My aunt was also really active and hard to keep still, so they ended up putting her in traction for several hours each day. She was always getting up and doing stuff, then claiming someone else did it (like cooking breakfast, but she used a stool to get around and there was always the stool left behind where she claimed someone else was working).

I know how helpless it feels when you have a loved one in that condition, so I know the only comfort I can offer you is through prayers and (((nik))).


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NIK honey, please ask for palliative care. It's not withdrawl of treatment, but does provide the help and support you your dad, and your family need, mentally and physically.

He sounds like many of the folks I help, and care for. Very delicate. I hope they can get things regulated and he clears a bit, not uncommon at all for confusion to go hand in hand with the infection.

((((and strength))))


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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Nik & family)))

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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Saying prayers for you and your family ((((((NIK))))))

K


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 4:06 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, tushnurse. We are already receiving hospice care, and he has very clear advanced directives in place. We know it's just a matter of time. He doesn't want to pursue treatment for the cancer (chemo, etc.) and is continuing the transfusions knowing full well that some time very soon his systems will shut down. He doesn't want to stop the transfusions (it is akin to suicide in his mind, and he is Catholic), but he's been at peace with his time coming to an end.

The rest of us? I can't say we're at peace with it yet, but we are determined to follow his directives to the letter. We were still receiving some support services from hospice after my mom's death in November, so we kind of just looped back around to the beginning of that cycle again, only this time with Dad. We all know what's coming.


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Default  Posted: 4:19 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Now and Dad and Family)))))


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh NIK honey. Embrace hospice. You did the same with mom right?
So glad you are getting the support you need.
Keeping you and your dad and your family in my thoughts and prayers.


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Default  Posted: 7:54 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))))


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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((nik)))

You and your family are in my thoughts.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Talked to Dad last night. He sounded good - he was clear and focused, understood what was going on, had good energy (all things considered), and his sense of humor was back. There are still concerns with the hemoglobin level. After Sunday's transfusion, his level was up to 9.1. Not terrific, but better than where he was when he was admitted. They are keeping a very close eye on it. The infection is responding to the IV antibiotics, so that's another bit of good news.

Thank you all for the support.


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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK and family)))

Toward the end of my grandfather's life, he was on a cocktail of medications for his various ailments. Diabetes. Heart Disease/congestive heart failure. Decreased renal/lung function. Idk all his diagnoses or all of the drugs he was on, but he actually had an issue with drug interaction causing confusion, delirium/hallucinations, etc. Could that be an issue with your dad?

**disclaimer: I am no doctor and this was 11 years ago so if I've got erroneous terminology, I apologize in advance.


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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's really good news. I'm so glad that you were able to talk to him while he is feeling better.


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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad to hear they were able to get him stabilized a bit, and you were able to talk to him.

Sending continued thoughts, strength, and mojo.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

he actually had an issue with drug interaction causing confusion, delirium/hallucinations, etc. Could that be an issue with your dad?
We had a similar issue with my mom several years ago, so I understand what you're describing. Dad's doctors are confident his confusion was due to the infection and his low hemoglobin. He hasn't had any med changes (other than the IV antibiotics they started in the hospital) for a very long time, and he has been alert and coherent on those meds up until this crisis. The fact that he was back to himself a day after starting the antibiotics and getting the second transfusion seems to back that up.


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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((NIK)))))))


Take up your space (and do it well).

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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((NIK and family))))

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abbycadabby
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good. I'm glad he's being closely monitored and that there have been improvements.

Prayers and hugs still!


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