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confused615
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Default  Posted: 4:06 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((((((NIK))))))))))))


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7412 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK))))

I hope your Dad is feeling better.

Its very very very common for elderly patients to become extremely confused with infection, in fact the first thing we do when an elderly person is brought to the ER with confusion is check their urine, the most likely cause of infection.

Hydration, and antibiotics usually get it turned around quickly.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8506 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((NIK and Dad))))


I'm sorry if you don't like my Honesty, but to be fair I don't like your lies.

Sometimes it's better to push someone away...not because you stopped loving them but because you can't take the pain anymore.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Talked to Dad again last night. He said he's behaving like a petulant child (specifically a 3-year old). He's crabbing at the nurses, having temper tantrums about the "bland crap" he's been getting to eat (they've got him on a low sodium, diabetic diet), and has been demanding things like chili and breakfast meats. Plural. He knows he's being a pain in the ass, "but dammit, there are diabetic foods that taste good, and surely they've heard of herbs and spices. It doesn't have to be awful."

This behavior is not typical. He's usually the patient that the nurses dote on - friendly, grateful, and charming.

He received another 2 units of blood yesterday, and was examined by his urologist, who suspects Dad has prostate cancer. I'm not sure what difference that makes at this point from a medical perspective, but it's got Dad scared. Dad doesn't do scared. Ever. Until now.

I'm pretty sure that fear is behind his lashing out. He was able to express that he's scared that this is really it. I told him I was coming this weekend for Father's Day, and he said he hoped he would see me, as if he doesn't believe he'll make it that long.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nik, can you today? If you can, do. It will help both of you.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6583 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))

My heart is so heavy for you You've been dealing with so much sadness, I wish I was there to offer you a big hug and shoulder to cry on.

Please know that MH and I are sending you all our love and strength.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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DixieD
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry NIK. It must be so hard for all of you.

At least he knows he's being a more difficult patient, and really he's right about the herbs and spices and food not having to taste awful. A logical and lucid statement. Sounds like his facilities have returned again.

It will be a scary time for everyone. Sending you strength and positive vibes.

(((NIK)))


Growing forward

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woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))

Sending more hugs and strength. Praying for peace and comfort for your father as well.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7813 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK))) (((and Dad and family)))


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10071 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Nik & family)))))

Sending so much love and prayers your way.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK))))

Go see Dad. Everything else can wait.

He is scared. Stop and get him a spice mix shaker. He may be lashing out, out of fear, and he does have point, the food could have some spices.....That being said his anemia can be contributing to his lack of taste too.

Go be with him, enjoy it.

(((and strength))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8506 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 1:19 PM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are a lot of tasty combinations in the Mrs. Dash seasoning line (no salt).

Enjoy your visit with your dad.

ETA: http://www.mrsdash.com/products/seasoning-blends

[This message edited by ThoughtIKnewYa at 1:19 PM, June 12th (Thursday)]


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 1:31 PM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Damn, I'm sorry nik. This just sucks.
(((((nik)))))


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry NIK.

Sending prayers to you and your Dad.

I agree with those who have said if you can, go to him now. He may feel some relief to have you there, holding his hand. We all feel better when we have loved ones with us.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you today.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7412 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, June 12th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aaawww ((((NIK)))) I'm so sorry for what you are going thru with your dad. Sending positive thoughts and hugs.....


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 15227 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, June 21st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dad was released from the hospital about a week ago. He was doing really well over the past week - the infection cleared up and his hemoglobin levels were staying pretty even, but he went back to the ER this afternoon complaining of weakness.

So they admitted him again. This time due to significant fluid on his lungs. He is short of breath to the point where he's having difficulty speaking, although he's made it clear that he's exhausted and scared.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Whalers11
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, June 21st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I missed this thread the first time, as I was on vacation and not checking in on SI much. Warm thoughts are with you, dad, and family.


Me: BGF - 33
Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, June 21st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry you're going through this NIK. I know how hard it is. Keeping you, your dad and your family in my thoughts and prayers.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20154 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, June 21st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((nik & dad)))

ETA: Are you there with him now? If not, I would drop everything and go be with him. I'm so sorry you have you have to go through this, (((nik))). Please go be with him.

[This message edited by ThoughtIKnewYa at 8:10 PM, June 21st (Saturday)]


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