Not sure where to post this. It has been over a year since I officially left WBF. I have my own place now and my DD and GD (5yrs old) live with me.
I have been moving out into the dating world but I am having difficulty with my XBF still wanting to be a part of my GD's life. Constant gift giving, wants her to come visit her "papa". He is no blood relation, but is the only Grand father she has known as I was with him over 10years.
XWBF is NPD and thrives on the attention he gets from GD and often uses lame excuses to come over to the house. He showed up on Saturday with a puppy from his litter (last one) even though my daughter and I had said NO! we already have a dog. He left it for GD to play with for the day. I made GD take it outside to play as it was loaded with fleas. My DD then rips into XWBF that they are no relation to him and that he didnt respect her as the mother of GD an goes behind her back and gives GD things without running it past her first. She then told him that he was a bad influence on her daughter and she didnt want him around her.
Well XWBF got all huffy and pissed off that she "spoke to him like that" and left mad as hell.
My DD was right in everything she said to him and I wish I could have told him what I really think of him, but I still have 2 horses Im trying to sell at his farm..so I feel I must play nice for now.
But what about GD? She loves her papa and he has never ever been mean to her and he is very good with her...Im torn as I really should end her relationship with him as there could be someone in my life someday that will be her Papa by marriage....long way off but its possible.
Having him out of my life and daughters life is a good thing but how do I get a 5 yr old to understand? Infidelity fallout when you least expect it, Sigh!