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User Topic: Mojo please! B. In. law hospitalized in Moscow
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad to hear things are going well so far.


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- Carlos Santana


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positively4thst
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Think positive and picture the best outcome. Don't draw any conclusions until he is evaluated by US docs. Russia does not need any more bad PR and I'm sure they want to hand him over to US med staff just as badly as we want to receive him. Some of the stuff, inducing comas, etc. can be par for the course to stabilize patients. Don't draw any conclusions yet, western medicine can do amazing things.

Hugs to you and your family.


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm happy to hear it is going well. Good thoughts coming your way.

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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Last leg of the air ambulance now. Landing in 3 hours, then I'll go meet them at the hospital. I just don't know what to expect when I meet her, I will just stay in the present...

Think positive and picture the best outcome. Don't draw any conclusions until he is evaluated by US docs. Russia does not need any more bad PR and I'm sure they want to hand him over to US med staff just as badly as we want to receive him. Some of the stuff, inducing comas, etc. can be par for the course to stabilize patients. Don't draw any conclusions yet, western medicine can do amazing things.

Thanks for this. There has been very little hope offered by either the russian docs (who spoke good english) or the american docs conferring with them from here. But you're right. The evaluation here will be critical...

[This message edited by InnerLight at 10:38 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)]


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sister home, thank god!

My mom and sister and I were up til 3am, a happy reunion even as bro in law is gravely ill. I had a few minutes to be w him in the hospital.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5857 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad they made it home! Sending prayers for peace and healing


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so glad he is back here! (((IL & family)))


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So happy to hear he is home and stable. Now you can all take a breath, regroup, reevaluate where things are, and go from there.

Do NOT hesitate to ask for help from the Pastoral Care staff, and Palliative Care team. These people can help in ways you couldn't even imagine.

(((and strength to you, your sister, and BIL)))


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Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My beloved bro in law passed away yesterday evening.
He was 58 years old.
We had the family meeting with the doctors in the morning and they said there was no hope for a meaningful recovery. My sister was between my mom and I, holding on to us. She asked that he be removed from active care which would be his wish. 4 hours later the feeding tube and ventilator were removed. He was given morphine.

My sister and I stayed with him and played a chant that he loved that means 'I honor the divinity within' , we mediated with him. At one point my sister suddenly felt exhausted and we took a break. When we were getting tea from the cafeteria, he passed.

We came back and sang to him one last time, and went home with a booklet on what to do next.

He was a beautiful man and he had a successful life as a full human being who was kind and loving to his wife and all those he met.

There is a big hole in our hearts today. But he had a serene death and he is free of all the troubles of his body now.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your loss.


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HeartStings
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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((InnerLight,sis,mom)))

It is obvious your BIL was a beautiful man. He waited to cross over until your sister had the support of you and your mom.

What a peaceful death. Blessings to all of you.


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you all massive hugs today.


DDay: June 15, 2008
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20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for your loss.

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((IL)))

I'm so sorry for the loss you and your family must endure.


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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful person who left the world a better place.

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yewtree
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for your loss, and hope you an all find comfort that he made it home, and was able to enjoy his trip to Russia.


Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)

Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.


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5454real
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Strength and prayers


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DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
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D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry IL. I'm glad you were there at the end.


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Cally60
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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry, InnerLight. :-( But I'm really grateful that your brother-in-law made it home, so that you were able to see him again and your sister had your support, and that of other family members, as he passed away.

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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((IL))))

So sorry to hear this, but so glad you're able to be there for your sister and she didn't have to go through this alone, in Moscow.


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