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User Topic: You're back
Pass
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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have good relationships with most of my clients, but have a couple who I now consider friends. I had to go fix some server issues for one of these clients today. A couple years ago, she had asked about me, because I was having trouble returning her calls after my suicide attempt, so I told her all about my depression and attempt. She also knows that I have left The Princess.

She was asking today about how things were going, so I ended up telling her the whole story about my impending divorce, and The Princess' behaviour that lead up to it. She said a couple items of interest.

- When she found out that I have the boys every weekend, she said, "What parent doesn't want to spend some fun weekend time with their kids? I know it works out well for you, but that just shows how self-absorbed she is! Most people fight for weekends with their kids."

- "You look happier than I've seen you in a long time. It's obvious that you're back, and it's good to see!"

I keep discovering - and being surprised by - the good people I have in my life, but didn't notice before. I love my people!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1836 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great stuff, Pass.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25061 | Registered: Aug 2011
5454real
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2726 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You deserve to have people recognize this - I'm so glad.


It is better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie. -Russian Proverb

Posts: 17076 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome validation from a friend... Nice of her to tell you.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5017 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is so awesome when "your people" are able to validate that you are doing well! I spend time with a couple who knew me and the Dooosh for years. I never really "hung" wih the husband until now, and even he recognized how well I am doing.

His exact words were what your friend said, "Purple! You are back!"

Awesome stuff pass. Keep it up!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3555 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
LeftOutintheCold
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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is great!! It's always nice to hear when people are healing and it shows!


Me - 42
WH - 40
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together over 10
Status - still separated

Posts: 328 | Registered: Mar 2014
Pass
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks y'all!

I still don't feel entirely "back" yet - and of course am hoping for a hell of a lot better than THAT - but it's nice to know I'm on the road.

I can't believe I spent so long cutting myself off from people. It's a fucking crime!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1836 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
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