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User Topic: You're back
Pass
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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have good relationships with most of my clients, but have a couple who I now consider friends. I had to go fix some server issues for one of these clients today. A couple years ago, she had asked about me, because I was having trouble returning her calls after my suicide attempt, so I told her all about my depression and attempt. She also knows that I have left The Princess.

She was asking today about how things were going, so I ended up telling her the whole story about my impending divorce, and The Princess' behaviour that lead up to it. She said a couple items of interest.

- When she found out that I have the boys every weekend, she said, "What parent doesn't want to spend some fun weekend time with their kids? I know it works out well for you, but that just shows how self-absorbed she is! Most people fight for weekends with their kids."

- "You look happier than I've seen you in a long time. It's obvious that you're back, and it's good to see!"

I keep discovering - and being surprised by - the good people I have in my life, but didn't notice before. I love my people!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1923 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great stuff, Pass.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25337 | Registered: Aug 2011
5454real
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2834 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You deserve to have people recognize this - I'm so glad.


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

Posts: 17322 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome validation from a friend... Nice of her to tell you.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5081 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is so awesome when "your people" are able to validate that you are doing well! I spend time with a couple who knew me and the Dooosh for years. I never really "hung" wih the husband until now, and even he recognized how well I am doing.

His exact words were what your friend said, "Purple! You are back!"

Awesome stuff pass. Keep it up!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3585 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
LeftOutintheCold
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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is great!! It's always nice to hear when people are healing and it shows!


Me - 42
WH - 40
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together over 10
Status - still separated

Posts: 331 | Registered: Mar 2014
Pass
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, June 10th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks y'all!

I still don't feel entirely "back" yet - and of course am hoping for a hell of a lot better than THAT - but it's nice to know I'm on the road.

I can't believe I spent so long cutting myself off from people. It's a fucking crime!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1923 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
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