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User Topic: It's officially done
rollerager
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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Everything but a couple of boxes and the kid's toys are out of the apartment. I have went through my fair share of shock to my body today, but I know it will all be okay.

I'm just so annoyed and angered that he still continues to lie about stuff he doesn't not even need to lie about anymore.

I can't wait until the day I find somebody who treats me and my children right. I know it will probably be a good long while but it will be worth it.


BS 22
WS 26
D-Day #1 EA/PA Oct 2011
D-Day #2 EA/PA Feb 2012
D-Day #3 EA/PA Mar 2012
^On going affair with former girlfriend.
D-Day #4 PA April 2013
D-Day #5 PA May 2014

I cannot see any hope in R, I am truly shattered.


Posts: 74 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Missouri
LeftOutintheCold
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((rollerager))) Thoughts of strength to you. I know it's not easy.


Me - 42
WH - 40
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together 11yrs
Status - Headed towards Divorce

Posts: 332 | Registered: Mar 2014
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((rollerager)))

Posts: 35415 | Registered: Mar 2011
rollerager
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Member # 39175
Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you, I think having the two babies makes it harder but we will make it.


BS 22
WS 26
D-Day #1 EA/PA Oct 2011
D-Day #2 EA/PA Feb 2012
D-Day #3 EA/PA Mar 2012
^On going affair with former girlfriend.
D-Day #4 PA April 2013
D-Day #5 PA May 2014

I cannot see any hope in R, I am truly shattered.


Posts: 74 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Missouri
OakStreet
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Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((rollercoaster))
Also sending strength.


Me: 58
Him: 65
Married: 21 years (well, we'll say 19 now!).
One son: 19, 2 adult stepdaughters
DDay: Oct. 14, 2013
18 month EA/PA with COW
Dday #2: 4/16/14 - took it underground for 5 months.
Haven't decided on outcome.

Posts: 458 | Registered: Nov 2013
justinpaintoday
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Get through today. Thats all. U can work on tommorrow when it gets here. Just get through today.


I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

Posts: 700 | Registered: Mar 2014
movingforward777
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Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The hardest thing about change is the unknown. Right now you need to look after yourself and your babies. So what if you don't get things unpacked and put away right away....take your time, make sure you eat, sleep, drink water, get out for a little exercise, and focus on your kids.
There is nothing you can do about the lies he tells you....his head is so far up his ass, in the fog that he simply lies to "give you and answer and shut you up".....don't let him destroy you.
A good friend of mine told me "the best revenge is to do well"....I always made sure I looked great, had my hair/makeup done, and took advantage of the weight I lost (due to the infidelity diet) when I had to see him....don't give him the satisfaction of seeing you broken down. I'm not saying don't cry, that is a normal thing to do, but it's time for the 180....do not let him see it happen...
Reach out to friends/family for help with the kids so you get a break/rest, and make him live up to his financial responsiblities. Have you seen a lawyer yet? Keep the communication between you strictly about the kids.
Hang in there sweetie....you will get through this...come to SI often, post lots...you will get lots of love, support and great advice here from people who do understand because they have either been there, or are there with you.....HUGS


You can't reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday's junk.......Louise Smith

Posts: 4841 | Registered: Apr 2005 | From: Ontario
rollerager
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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you. We've been broken up for 3 weeks but it seems more official now that I've gotten everything moved out. I am staying with my mom currently and I don't have to deal with a divorce because we were not married.

It is hard not to get upset around him but really the only time I have majorly seen him is while moving the stuff. He hasn't seemed too interested in taking the kids on the weekends but he has taken them for a couple of hours here and there.

I feel a lot of relief but at the same time a lot of anger is still bubbling in me. Just focusing on each day helps though.


BS 22
WS 26
D-Day #1 EA/PA Oct 2011
D-Day #2 EA/PA Feb 2012
D-Day #3 EA/PA Mar 2012
^On going affair with former girlfriend.
D-Day #4 PA April 2013
D-Day #5 PA May 2014

I cannot see any hope in R, I am truly shattered.


Posts: 74 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Missouri
brkn_heartd
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending support your way, for tonight, tomorrow and the rest of the week! It is a long road, but I think the next few days you will need that extra support.
Take care of yourself.


Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1618 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
SadInNC
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, June 15th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi rollerager. Sending you strength! Remember that you will be better off without the constant lying in your life. You are free of that now

Goodness, light and TRUTH are in your future!


BS/Me WH/Him

"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." -Unknown Wise Person


Posts: 339 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: North Carolina, United States
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