If you guys are divorced then the alimony goes right along with the division of assets and that's done. She can't take you back on the alimony.
Edited to add that you can also go back to modify child-support automatically every three years in my state regardless of the circumstances and whether they've changed or not. It might actually be in your best interest to do so if she's earning more money that should make your child support less if you are in a state that uses the income shares model.
[This message edited by debbysbaby at 3:51 PM, June 16th (Monday)]
I don't think SS can be changed.
Make sure you have detailed records of everything that you pay.
You may also want to look up a CS calculator for your state and see the standard calculation would be. But try not to worry because she would actually have to be proactive to get it changed. If she does, gather your documentation and get a L.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
There needs to be "change of circumstances" but depending on the judge, that definition will vary. Ex took me back to court less than 2 years after our divorce - his change of circumstance? Marrying the OW. 😳
My lawyer didn't think the motion would even be entertained since he said usually that does not qualify. But my judge was new to the bench and let the hearing happen. 10 months and $15,000 in legal fees later, his motion to modify was settled.
(I agreed to some, but not all, his requests. He refused to budge on anything, so everything to had to go to the judge).
I know what you mean by ticking time bomb. I can't imagine I will make it until my youngest turns 18 without him taking me back to court.