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User Topic: Just when I thought I was getting better...
Lackingcourage
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Member # 39394
Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, June 16th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know I'm doing the right thing. I know he's not going to change. I finally officially filed for divorce last Thursday. Then today, a friend of mine told me that a mutual friend of ours confided in her that WS propositioned her about having an affair some time back. She declined since she knew he was married. I don't know if WS and mutual friend are still "good friends" or if she cut it off. I probably won't ask her since she didn't confide in me that WH proposed this. I was going to just let it go, but WH happened to text me about bringing something by the house shortly after I learned this news and asked if it was ok. I replied that since I just found out about yet another woman, it was probably better if he not get anywhere near me at that moment. More excuses from him, "She must have misunderstood, I struggled with how to communicate about our unhealthy marriage, blah, blah, blah." Oh, and last week I learned that most recent AP has been telling people that happen to know us about their affair(and I'm sure telling them how awful I was as a wife). So, why do I let it get to me? I have filed. I was feeling so strong last week after I did that. I insisted on being the petitioner, rather than having him be a joint petitioner, which is what he wanted. Now, I feel like I'm back at square one. AND we have to deal with some details related to the house and the dog in the next couple of days, and I want nothing to do with him. Do these little insults ever stop?


BW 51
WS 50
DD -- which time?
Married 24 yrs, 2 kids 19 and 22
Reconciling maybe?-- Nope, false alarm. He continued to lie, I asked him to leave. Plan on divorce.

Posts: 65 | Registered: May 2013
lovehonorcherish
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Default  Posted: 8:13 PM, June 16th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've actually had to tell people not to pass information on to me about my stbxh and what he and the AP are doing. It just hurts me too much and I am truly better off not knowing. I have all the details that I need about the two of them...two lying, cheating, morally challenged, selfish cowards who have destroyed two marriages in order to be together. I know from experience what you're going through but try to let it go and focus on yourself and rebuilding your life. You will never have a moments peace otherwise. Take care!


I am no longer accepting the things I cannot change...I am changing the things I cannot accept.

Posts: 125 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Northeastern US
LeftOutintheCold
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Member # 42856
Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, June 16th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm of the same mind frame as lovehonorcherish. There is no use in learning new things about the WH - it just hurts you more.

I have all the details that I need about the two of them...two lying, cheating, morally challenged, selfish cowards who have destroyed two marriages in order to be together.

^^^I have literally said just about this same thing to friends/family members who thought they were being helpful.

Focus on yourself. Many thoughts of strength to you!!


Me - 42
WH - 40
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together 11yrs
Status - Headed towards Divorce

Posts: 332 | Registered: Mar 2014
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