Topic: all about me.
Member # 43711
| Posted: 11:30 AM, June 18th (Wednesday), 2014|
I'm coming to fully embrace my affair was all about me. Isn't that what affairs are? Two selfish people giving into addictive behavior and their need for validation?
Posts: 56 | Registered: Jun 2014
Member # 42111
| Posted: 11:33 AM, June 18th (Wednesday), 2014|
Yes. It was nothing to do with your BS, your M or your AP.
Now figure out why.
Me - 27
Him - 27
My Ddays - Jan 2010 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.
Posts: 1267 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
Member # 43618
| Posted: 11:45 AM, June 18th (Wednesday), 2014|
I totally agree. And now the work really starts.
I am no longer Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde. I am me, and they are both part of me.
"If you don't eat the elephant in one bite, it might trample you while chewing"
ME: WH HER: BS (holesinmybucket)
I do not PM with Women
Posts: 843 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Midwest
Member # 40484
| Posted: 8:11 PM, June 18th (Wednesday), 2014|
Two selfish people giving into addictive behavior and their need for validation?Careful here, the idea that cheating is an addiction is avoiding responsibility.
Dday Dec 2009
"Do not say a little in many words but a great deal in a few." Pythagoras
There are two kinds of people in the world.
Those who can extrapolate from incomplete data.
Posts: 390 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Limbo in Oz
Member # 38336
| Posted: 1:56 PM, June 19th (Thursday), 2014|
Two selfish people giving into addictive behavior and their need for validation?
Careful here, the idea that cheating is an addiction is avoiding responsibility.
I want to disagree a little bit to this statement. My affair was definitely addictive behavior, but that doesn't mean I am not taking responsibility for my actions. There are many reasons that led me to have an affair, but I felt an addiction to the attention, etc made it hard for me to stop. I believe that the feel good chemicals released keep you wanting more. I don't blame my BH for my behaviors and I don't blame an addiction - I'm just telling you what it felt like for me, that I had a very difficult time stopping.
Sorry if I t/j this thread.
Trying to rebuild each day
Me - WW 39
Him - BH 40 (mpb1974)
2 Furrbabies - sweet cats
Met - 8/13/99
Started dating - 9/11/99
Moved in together - 3/03
Engaged - 6/5/09
Married - 8/21/10
D-Day - 1/24/13
Affair started 5/09
Posts: 518 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Member # 38090
| Posted: 12:42 PM, June 20th (Friday), 2014|
I agree as well. It was completely selfish and all about me.
Father of 3 beautiful girls
* I am a RS (Recovering Scumbag)
* Do as I say, NOT as I did. :-(
* I acknowledge the grace I have received. I know do not deserve it.
Posts: 231 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 39803
| Posted: 12:44 PM, June 20th (Friday), 2014|
Someone here put it more eloquently than me:
"An affair is just two selfish fuc*ers, fuc*ing."
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
Posts: 2158 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
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