Topic: all about me.
Member # 43711
| Posted: 11:30 AM, June 18th (Wednesday), 2014|
I'm coming to fully embrace my affair was all about me. Isn't that what affairs are? Two selfish people giving into addictive behavior and their need for validation?
Posts: 56 | Registered: Jun 2014
Member # 42111
| Posted: 11:33 AM, June 18th (Wednesday), 2014|
Yes. It was nothing to do with your BS, your M or your AP.
Now figure out why.
Me - 27
Him - 27
My Ddays - 01/10 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.
Posts: 1235 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
Member # 43618
| Posted: 11:45 AM, June 18th (Wednesday), 2014|
I totally agree. And now the work really starts.
Moving from Jekyll the destroyer to Jekyll the rebuilder.
"If you don't eat the elephant in one bite, it might trample you while chewing"
ME: WH HER: BS (holesinmybucket)
no stop sign = BS always welcome
I do not PM with women
Posts: 697 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: United States
Member # 40484
| Posted: 8:11 PM, June 18th (Wednesday), 2014|
Two selfish people giving into addictive behavior and their need for validation?Careful here, the idea that cheating is an addiction is avoiding responsibility.
Dday Dec 2009
"Do not say a little in many words but a great deal in a few." Pythagoras
There are two kinds of people in the world.
Those who can extrapolate from incomplete data.
Posts: 390 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Limbo in Oz
Member # 38336
| Posted: 1:56 PM, June 19th (Thursday), 2014|
Two selfish people giving into addictive behavior and their need for validation?
Careful here, the idea that cheating is an addiction is avoiding responsibility.
I want to disagree a little bit to this statement. My affair was definitely addictive behavior, but that doesn't mean I am not taking responsibility for my actions. There are many reasons that led me to have an affair, but I felt an addiction to the attention, etc made it hard for me to stop. I believe that the feel good chemicals released keep you wanting more. I don't blame my BH for my behaviors and I don't blame an addiction - I'm just telling you what it felt like for me, that I had a very difficult time stopping.
Sorry if I t/j this thread.
Trying to rebuild each day
Me - WW 39
Him - BH 40 (mpb1974)
2 Furrbabies - sweet cats
Met - 8/13/99
Started dating - 9/11/99
Moved in together - 3/03
Engaged - 6/5/09
Married - 8/21/10
D-Day - 1/24/13
Affair started 5/09
Posts: 487 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Member # 38090
| Posted: 12:42 PM, June 20th (Friday), 2014|
I agree as well. It was completely selfish and all about me.
Father of 3 beautiful girls
* I am a RS (Recovering Scumbag)
* Do as I say, NOT as I did. :-(
* I acknowledge the grace I have received. I know do not deserve it.
Posts: 228 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 39803
| Posted: 12:44 PM, June 20th (Friday), 2014|
Someone here put it more eloquently than me:
"An affair is just two selfish fuc*ers, fuc*ing."
me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is a personal crisis, not a relationship.
I edit, therefore I am.
Posts: 2058 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
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