So over the weekend for Father's Day we went up to visit WS family for the day. It was nice, we had a cookout and all the kids played, I truly enjoyed it. I didn't have that hatred of trying to pretend we a re "normal" anymore. I didn't have to fake my happiness and it felt so nice and peaceful in a way. So my sister in law use to be my best friend back in high school which is how I met WS. Junior year after moving apart we wernt really friends anymore, so we grew apart into two completely different woman. Little back story on SIL, she went across the states got married to the first person she lost her virginity to, had two children. Found out her husband had an affair with her best friend and just lost it. Her husband got into some trouble and ended up in prison. She let her MIL take care of her kids while she "got her life together". She moved back to FL to live with her parents. It's now been a little over 3 years. Her daughters are 6 and the youngest turns 4 soon. They were only 3 and a few mo the when she left. She only sends packages to her kuds. She tried going to court to get them back but has yet to do the things she's suppose to do to get her full custody back. To be honest I believe those children are exactly where they are suppose to be. In a loving home with two parents that have raised them. She is trying g to take them back and I am sided with the grandparents on this.
Anyway to the point... SIL has been going around and clubbing alot. She just told me on Father's Day that she was pregnant and what do I think about abortions? I am pro choice but I told her at 17/18 weeks she had better not. Her boyfriend that she she has been dating since March sometime is her boss and supposedly the father(they were hooking up before boyfriend girlfriend status). So he is in the middle of a divorce, he has 2 small children like 2 and 3.
I am somehow so proud of myself that I didn't want to bash her head into the wall and scream at her for what she is doing and how she is hurting others ( they were working on their marriage). I really just look at her and her life and see how sad and pathetic it is. That people who live that type of lifestyle will eventually have to face themselves and what they have done... and if they dont, then they will live a very sad unhappy life. I mean there is no true happiness in living like that and for people like her to find it they will have to face the truth of themselves
I feel like I have hit a very important and somehow proud point in my life. I'm not sure if this is making any sense to anyone but it feels really good to not have hatred in me. I mean I'm upset with her and told her that, but I don't wish her to die or suffer an ymore, I think she is doing just fine with suffering all on her own. I do feel horrible for whomever the wife is. I wish I could just reach out to her but I know it's not my place.
[This message edited by kate0421 at 12:59 PM, June 19th, 2014 (Thursday)]