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User Topic: Really, can't a girl get a break?
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Default  Posted: 1:14 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't give you any advice SS. But I wish I had your strength. You're facing possibly the toughest road of your life and you're facing it with courage.

I admire you and wish you the best of luck.

Me: FWS 45


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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Living very close to the coast of Maine, I can tell you the weather is beautiful right now. You and the fam should be in for a really nice week!

The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Relax and enjoy the holiday with your family.

You are doing great, stay strong. We're all behind you.

Me - 27
Him - 27

My Ddays - Jan 2010 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.

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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seems to me that if you can handle SWAT's very emotional outburst, and still be feeling all of this pride and love for him today, you'll be able to handle any further issues that will pop up down the road.

Does it take some weight off of your shoulders to not have to worry if you can handle it. Because you did handle it, you were exceptional.

You two are so in love. You'll get this all behind you one day.

Only a couple of weeks ago it didn't seem that certain, did it?

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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, June 29th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BS here.
I think that you are learning, SS, that an affair can be a clarifying event in a marriage that can totally open both people up. My H and I went through similar things after dday, where I opened up about things I didn't even realize I had kept from him. It can be a very powerful, healing, and growing time for both of you. Keep at it, and keep the faith.

It isn't that way for everyone, of course. I see evidence of much repression and rugsweeping in the other family affected by my husband's infidelity. So, you have a chance to grow and heal together. It looks like you are grabbing that brass ring. Good for you.

me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, June 29th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He trusted me enough to show and tell me this. He trusts me enough to be a safe place for him.
As a BH I cannot begin to tell you how important that is.

D final 8/2012

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Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So far the vacation has been great. Nice weather and the people are so friendly. The house we are staying is amazing. Swat really went all out on this place, it is huge and probably is owned by someone super rich.

Swat is trying to eat lobster at every meal, not what I would consider breakfast food but what ever. Everyone is having a good time so far. Our kids and the nieces and nephew are having the most fun I think. "Daddy" aka uncle Swat is the biggest kid here and the ringleader of the heathen pack.

He has also made sure we have had some alone time. And he has allowed me to be very affectionate. Lots of hand holding, hugs and kisses. He is also starting to show more affection, just touching my back at the beach and stuff. It is very nice, but being intimate is something we haven't been is a very long time. I know it is because of my actions, but it is still difficult to take. But tonight is the night and I'm going for it. I'm hoping there will not be any triggers, but if there are, I'm hoping I can help him deal with them.

BH-SWAT70 Me-39
Three kids 11,6 and 3
He did file for divorce, the marriage will be ended 10/23/14.

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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really admire your positive attitude and your commitment to helping SWAT recover. With a bit of luck he can get over this temporary mental block and become super intimate once more.

Tonight hopefully; make sure you blow his socks off. He deserves lots of incredible lovin'.

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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wishing you both the best and hope you have a great vacation.

Been following both of your threads and I'm pulling for you both!

Have fun!!!!

ME - BH 45
Her - XWS 30
D - April 2010 - never looked back and good riddance.
Happily remarried!

Though much is taken, much abides; and though we are not now that strength which in old days
moved earth and heaven, that which we are, we are

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