I too blamed the OW until I realised he let it happen, he went along with it, he wasn't forced, and then he lied deceived denied
Of course the husband's took the bait, and that is wrong.
Still, women are becoming more predatory than in the past.
In the past women did NOT seem quite so sex oriented as men.
That has changed, and there are women from the hook up generation who are on OW forums actually crowing about how they baited a married man into cheating, and how it strokes their egos, and how they always get them to spend money on them.
Still, yes, the dopey man takes the bait and jumps through their manipulative hoops like a trained seal.
Still, when I was dating and single, I would not even date a man that one of my women friends was SIMPLY INTERESTED IN, let alone married to or dating.
I just could not betray a woman friend in that way.