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User Topic: Parenting 101 fail
tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:53 AM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sheesh. I pick Teslet up yesterday morning, bright and early. We go to a store because it's time to get him a new bicycle. I pull a couple off the shelf and have him hop on to figure out what size he needs. As he's sliding off the first bike, he says, "mom, I don't have any underwear on."

And suddenly, in my mind flashed tryingagain's stupid xh and commandowife. What. The. Hell.?

I asked if he forgot to put undies on when he woke up this morning. He says that actually, sometime yesterday(?) he had his swim trunks on and the happy little family went somewhere but he needed to change into regular clothes and dad said it would be ok if he didn't have underwear.

Apparently it was also ok for Teslet to sleep in his clothes and not change into a new set of clothes when he woke up.

And I'd get mad about it except given that Teslet wanted to have bedtime talks about why I wanted dad arrested AND why I don't let dad pick him up from daycare, the undie thing is barely picking up on the radar.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4683 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, just wow. I see the parenting skills are on the decline over at the bowels of chaos.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1777 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What is wrong with people?

It's like when you see dirty kids in the morning - you know that they went to bed dirty.

Fucking Jagoffs.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7761 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
BrokenDaisy
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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh!! Can't even manage the basics.

(((Tesla & Teslet)))


Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Finally Divorced!!

Posts: 266 | Registered: Oct 2012
GingerAle
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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ummm, so no bath after the swimming, sleeping in dirty clothes, and wearing no undies. Wow.

I hate him so much for burdening Teslet with grown up issues and disparaging you to him ((((Tesla & Teslet))))


My WH (The KISA, NPD) 6 month EA in 2010
2 other EAs in 2012 & 2013
Filed for D 7/2014


Posts: 425 | Registered: Nov 2011
tesla
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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Omg not gonna believe what t just told me...ugh. These people.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4683 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As a teacher, I believe it. :(

Thank goodness you can balance out all the stoopid shit exshat does.


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*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3612 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Omg not gonna believe what t just told me...ugh. These people.
I'm almost afraid to ask, tesla.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If your ex wasn't such a jag off, I would think, one day, big deal. He had fun swimming....

But with your ex, it is always just one.more.thing.

Seriously, can he not buy a freaking clue on how to be a decent human??


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6605 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First, be glad teslet is aware that he isn't wearing underwear... My youngest DS went through a solid year where I had to ask "Are you wearing underwear?" before letting him out the door. He loved to answer, "I am pretty sure yes" which led to an exasperated "Can you CHECK?" from me. This same son prefers to sleep in basketball shorts and a t-shirt (which qualifies for "fully dressed" here). His reasoning? Saves time in the morning not having to "get dressed."

Oh, and swimming in a swimming pool? Qualifies for bathing. In fact, "Can we go to the pool so I don't have to bathe?" actually has been said out loud.

As for "why do you want to send daddy to jail?" - I have experience with that conversation. Gritting my teeth here. That shit ain't funny.

eta: pool=bathing is "boy thinking." And when the boys become aware of girls, the bathing thing is not a problem. Having enough hot water? yes, new problem.

[This message edited by caregiver9000 at 11:52 AM, June 24th (Tuesday)]


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DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok, Teslet just fell asleep. Guess I'm wearing him out.
Teslet says, "dad has a pool, but it's not for me but they still let me play with it. Guess what it's for!"
"A pool? I hope it's for swimming."
"No, not a pool...a Pool...you know, to swing around on!"
"A pole?"
"Yeah, a pool. It's in the livingroom. My cousin and I do cool tricks on it...but my cousin is starting to break it. Uncle (ex-shat's bro) was mad because he thought it was supposed to keep the ceiling up. But it's not. It's for excercising and doing tricks on."
"Anyone else excercise on the pole?"
"Yeah, stripper whore does. She can hang upside down on it with only her legs, mom."
"Huh. Bet dad thought that was a pretty neat trick."
"Mom, dad was at work."

Oh, fanfuckingtastic my kid is getting the tiny tot stripper show when she ought to be taking care of my kid.
So help me god.
Mama bear wants to destroy people. Right. Now.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4683 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 12:10 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Un.be.fucking.lievable. I am stunned and I am praying that you can bring this to your L's attention and have stripper whore's private shows stopped.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1777 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holy shit, Tesla.
She's getting back in shape to go back to work.

I can't believe she does it in front of Teslet.
Wonder what she wears when she's doing it.

This is just so wrong.


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1417 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whoops double post.

and ETA

[This message edited by Lola2kids at 12:11 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)]


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1417 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((tesla & teslet)))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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ArkLaMiss
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

CALL CPS NOW! This is sooooo not good for your child to witness. Call. Seriously.


Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm speechless, just speechless.

I have boys and have done the whole, 'You just came out of the pool, here's some shampoo and the garden hose.' But really?! Their little parts are sensitive and chafe. Don't even get me started on inadequate wiping. Going commando is not an option (especially with zippers).

As far as the stripper pole in the living room. Really, really?!! I have a mental picture of Teslet saying, "Uncle Teslen says I should give you a dollar when you do that." Totally inappropriate.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


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donotlietome
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I must have missed the update from the weekend. Did all go OK for you Friday?

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NoMorDeceit
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...she swings from the pole in front of your little boy??? You can't make this shit up. I'd report her, if nothing else let them investigate this. Grossssss. Seriously who does that??


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Many D Days in April 2009
Multiple affairs, LTAs, and many OWs
Reconciled... There is hope! :)


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Newlease
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok - the pole thing is gross. At this point he's still young enough to think it's just for exercise and "tricks." What is she wearing when she's on the pole? If she's fully clothed (for her) then he won't see anything weird about it.

It's when he gets older and talks about it with his peers that the TRUTH about what the pole is for will come out. And he will be embarrassed.

Poor Teslet - he shouldn't have to navigate this stuff.

NL


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