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User Topic: Parenting 101 fail
itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am making this face right now ~~~>

Except my jaw is just about scraping the floor.


Posts: 3419 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
k94ever
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Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tesla....I'm so sorry Teslet is going through this.

This just isn't right.


k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6580 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This has made me get scary quiet in my mind because there's no more outrage. Only a simple wish for quiet justice.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9824 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
peridot
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Default  Posted: 6:27 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope he ends up in jail soon for your son's sake.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4788 | Registered: Feb 2008
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh good lord?!?!?!!?

Do any of these morons know how to parent? How hard is it to make sure a child is wearing underwear and gets a bath?!!?!

But of course, the cheater mindset that leads to destroying one's family and following one's selfish whims would not be compatible with responsible, involved parenting. It's only compatible with fun trips, too much candy, and showing up at events to show off what a "great" parent the cheater is.

As for the pole... I don't even know what to say. Stripper Whore and ex-shat are disgusting. I'm so glad they brought another child into the world together. That kid doesn't stand a chance.

Thank heavens teslet has you, tesla. I don't know if your complaint would be taken seriously by CPS (after all, there are pole dancing exercise classes... the two idiots could totally lie and say that she uses it to "work out"), but I would definitely put in a call to my lawyer for advice if I were you.

(((tesla))) Watch out... ex-shat's going to go after you for Ziploc bags any day now!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3620 | Registered: Oct 2011
ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

W.T.F?????

Are these people for real???


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

Posts: 1575 | Registered: Aug 2010
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The pole?? Oh sweet Jesus, yes, report this. It's just too many levels of wrong...


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17493 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm speechless at the pole issue. Speechless. What in the holy fuck is WRONG with these people????? If you want to act like a classless, trashy whore, have the one tiny shred of decency it takes to do it when kids are not around. It's not that fucking hard.

I have no idea what cps would say, but I would be calling my lawyer ASAP to give him an earful about this new fucktastic development.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 2840 | Registered: Jan 2011
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh, it's just so much more real now that StripperWhore is actually a stripper. The stupid bitch is bringing the club to her living room?!? And practicing while she should be paying attention to her boyfriend's little kid?!?!? Even Mosley don't wanna see that shit!

Gaa, I just can't imagine doing that in front of a little boy that ISN'T FUCKING MINE. What a slunt.

The thought of OW alone with my kids makes my blood boil. If I knew she was doing this shit, you bet your ass I would call SOMEBODY about it.

If she's an admitted stripper who has been paid for this, hopefully that blows her "exercise" defense out of the water.

And gross you guys. You're just like my cousin. Taking a swim does NOT count as taking a bath. You HAVE to take a bath to get the swim water off!

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 10:53 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)]


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Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

Posts: 2316 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 10:50 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The super sucky part is that even if you contact your L or CPS, there are no laws against having a stripper pole in your house or against being astoundingly stupid! The reality is unless she (stripper whore) does something to harm or endanger Teslet there is nothing that can be done to protect him from the immoral bunch. I wish it weren't so and I am sure many a judge, lawyer and jury would shake their heads in astonishment at the lack of common sense they both suffer from but it isn't illegal. It sucks


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1777 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 10:56 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope Teslet plays on it just enough to loosen it, just so that SWhore takes a dive next time she tries her upside-down move.

Considering her obvious brain damage, it's not like it would be the first time she fell.


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

Posts: 2316 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 10:59 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Yeah, stripper whore does. She can hang upside down on it with only her legs, mom."
"Huh. Bet dad thought that was a pretty neat trick."
"Mom, dad was at work."

What. the. hell?

Who DOES that? All I keep thinking about is whether or not the "girls" were up under her chin in nearly plain site while she was doing that little number.

Just....no....


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
StrongerOne
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Default  Posted: 8:51 AM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't bother calling the police or CPS etc about the pole. STripper poles have been "exercise equipment" for several years now. I kid you not. Google Exercise Exotic Stripper Pole Dance.

The underwear -- meh. I understand it bothers you, but really, not a hill to die on, and I doubt any court is going to care, unless Teslet is getting rashes or illness from going commando. My teen son has slept in his tshirt and silky basketball shorts in warm weather, and then worn those same clothes the next day, for several years. He showers before bed, and he has to put on underpants before leaving the house. He also needs to be sure the clothes are not smelly or overly wrinkled. (Not a problem now that he's interested in girls ) We did have to do an underwear check back when he was in 4th grade...sigh.

I guess tell Teslet that it's not good manners to leave the house without underpants, and to tell him to ask his dad (or, shudder, StripperWhore) for clean unders.

So sorry you are dealing with bozo and his piss-ant circus! I admire your strength and classiness in dealing with it!


DDay Feb 2011.
In R.

Posts: 872 | Registered: Sep 2012
itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope Teslet plays on it just enough to loosen it, just so that SWhore takes a dive next time she tries her upside-down move.

This is a hilarious visual!

However, I wouldn't want Teslet to ever TOUCH that pole---I'm sure stripper whore doesn't clean the pole off after she um....uses it.

I wouldn't want Teslet to get slut on his hands.
*shudder*


Posts: 3419 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
TheGivingTree
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Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What happens when Teslet goes back to school in the fall, and the teacher asks everyone to talk about something they did over vacation, and he mentions Stripper-whore and the stripper pole? After all, he told you. What's to stop him from telling his school class?


Me: FBW, 48. Him: SAFWH, 57 (SFGary)
3 fantastic kids: DS 16, DS 15, DD 10
DDay 1: 1/8/13, multiple DDays with TT for an entire year.

Working hard at R.
If all you wanted was love, why would you use me up, cut me down, build a boat and sail aw


Posts: 48 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: San Francisco
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope Teslet plays on it just enough to loosen it, just so that SWhore takes a dive next time she tries her upside-down move.

This calls for some shrimp.....inside the pole.


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

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Lyonesse
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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This calls for some shrimp.....inside the pole.


Me: BS, 40's.

Posts: 1797 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
SBB
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yuck. I get that it is a good form of exercise and strength building but I just don't understand why you would do it in front of a kid. The poses are inappropriate, the outfits are inappropriate. She would be doing these tricks in her undies because you need skin to pole contact.

I have a FB acquaintance who takes her two under 5 to her pole lessons and posts pics/videos. Her bra and boobs are sticking out of a tiny tee and her short shorts are hiked up her arse. I always cringe.

She has copped a lot of flak for it but seems to think it's the pole that offends people. No - it's the kids witnessing those positions in those outfits.

If memory serves me this isn't the first time Teslet had undie issues - wasn't he made to wear undies under a nappy too?

Teslet is 5 - I think it's a little too soon to attribute his behaviour to 'boys are gross'. I have girls though so I might be wrong.

I doubt there is much you can do about either. I'd be livid too. Who does THAT? How hard is it to have a wash and put some undies on? Didn't the adults wash after the swim to get the stink out of their skin?

Ah the joys of sharing parenting with a lower muppet. One of the hardest parts is having to stand back and watch them and their whores modelling completely inappropriate behaviour. In a few years Teslet and OC will be able to tell Stripperwhore that it's gross and she's gross and please stop. Until then. You have this. Yuck.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 11:29 PM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I still think she's practicing - rehearsing if you will - for when she needs to go back to work to support them. Like when ex-shat goes to jail.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2381 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know, the undie thing doesn't even bother me that much...it's just the cherry on top of the crappy parenting sundae.

The pole thing sucks because there isn't a damn thing that can be done about it. I really don't like that it's normalizing that behavior for Teslet. I don't like that he's thinking it's ok for women to dress in that manner and perform in that way. I don't like that stripper whore has such poor boundaries...but then, she is a stripper-whore, isn't she?

Speaking of poor boundaries...I was told by ex-shat's stepmom before the summer visit began that stripper whore is very easily frustrated by parenting. She doesn't understand how to discipline OC...sounds like when OC (18 months old) doesn't get what she wants she goes up to stripper whore and hits her. (I never had that issue with Teslet as a toddler...so I'm not sure if that is normal or not)
While I had Teslet the last couple of days, he had several temper tantrums (out of character) when he couldn't have his way and during one of them he came up to me and hit me...hard.

Now, I don't know how stripper-whore deals with this situation with OC but I know poor Teslet had a come to Jesus moment where I'm fairly certain he thought his death was imminent. Thank god I've had CPI training through my school (training in holds and restraints for children that are in crisis and acting out). We de-escalated, talked it through. The mantra: kids don't hit their moms when they don't get their way. Repeat, repeat, repeat.

He has two more weeks at the bowels of chaos.
I hate this shit.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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