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Harriet
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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Will you be asking about whether size matters for us, too?


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In the interest of equality, shouldn't we have an ask the womenz thread too?

We've tried that a few times but all we care about is whether or not size really matters and it always turns into an argument.


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ReunitePangea
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This thread rocks! We need an ask the woman thread too!

is the basic core of the fantasy just a desire to be with another woman, and that somehow calling it a ménage a trois just a way to legitimize that desire?

This is not a fantasy of mine really. I have suspected those that fantasize over it has less to do with legitimizing being with another woman and more to do with it being viewed as a status symbol.

Before I started nursing I had A cup breasts that WH always said were perfect. Now that I'm a C cup he just oggles them all the time. Was he lying when he said I was perfect before?

I agree with many of the above, all boobs are good. Your WH might not have been lying about your boobs.

is a power washer a good investment?

No, you can always rent one or borrow one.

who should I draft as receiver in my fantasy football league 2014?

I have no idea, I dont play fantasy football but love fantasy baseball. Baseball is a much better stats based sport. Football is more fun to just watch and enjoy.

What University did Razor go to???


BS - Me 38
WS - Wife 39
D-Day - Oct 12
Married 10 years
OM1 - 12-year LTA
OM2 - 9 month A turned into open relationship with couple for another 1 1/2 years

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BrokenButTrying
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh dear! Fights about about size never end well.

[This message edited by BrokenButTrying at 5:05 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)]


Me - 27
Him - 27
Madhatters

My Ddays - Jan 2010 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13

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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 5:06 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

all boobs are good

I'm having a hard time believing that about saggy boobs :(


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A long time ago, a friend went on and on about an MMF experience. But then I'd expect the F to enjoy that sort of triad. She didn't invite me, and I wouldn't have accepted, as attractive as she was, since that was after I got married. She certainly enjoyed herself, though.

FFM never really intrigued me. I like my W, and I always thought life is safer and better if we have sex with each other and no one else.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want a boob lift badly. H says they are perfect. I call bullshit.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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Maxiom
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm having a hard time believing that about saggy boobs :(

Why? If faced with choice between gravity defying silicon enhanced breasts and real breasts, I'll take real every time.


Me: FBS/WS 41
Her FWS/BS 41
My DDay - March 10, 2007 Whole Truth - May 2007
Her DDay - March 2, 2011
True NC March 3, 2011

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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's sweet Max, but you are 41. Have you ever really seen real saggy boobs?


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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saturnpatrick
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Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Threeway?
Fantasy: It would be awesome for not one but two women to think I am some kind of greek god. Reality: I would be nervous and uncomfortable and it would be the ultimate fail.

What do I think when I see hoo-haa?
I've usually stopped thinking at that point.

Power washer investment?
Nope. Try stocks or bonds.

Wide Receiver?
Anybody who plays for Denver. Even the towel boy for Denver is probably a good pick.

Boobs?
My wife's have always been far better than mine. I love them.

[This message edited by saturnpatrick at 5:16 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)]


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MC_Jack
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

my 2 cents

ménage a trois
^^^ actually for me the fantasy is about 2 at a time. gratuitous conquest I suppose.
boobs
^^^ All boobs are good. A bra just exaggerates the aesthetic appearance of big boobs.
hoo-hah
^^^ visual, visceral reaction
power washer
^^^good gift


I am not a marriage counselor. I chose "MC Jack" because I like the Music City. I did not know what MC stood for on this site. Duh.

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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh dear! Fights about about size never end well.

Sorry couldn't resist. Apparently size does AND does not matter.

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=518260

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=468819

Funny what you get when you google penis size surviving infidelity.


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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey, pain - I turn 70 next month. IMO, there are some massive benefits to LT relationships, but it means we have to accept normal human deterioration. It would be weird if she still had the body of a 20 year old. It might be nice, of course, if I still had the body of a 21 year old.

So, yeah, sagging breasts can be perfect.

You can imagination how much I chuckle when I read 40-sometings lamenting how old they feel....

[This message edited by sisoon at 5:27 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)]


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Renting or borrowing a power washer is a great idea. I just love how clean everything looks after using it! AND you don't have to store it anywhere or worry about how much gas is in it.

One thing a prof said that has stuck with me is that when 2 men are having sex with 1 woman. what is really happening is the 2 men are wanting to have sex with each other. But without being gay or bisexual the only way they can do that is by sharing a woman. And I suppose the same thing can be said about encounters of 2 women having sex with 1 man.

Since we can't agree on whether the size of the boat matters, as a womanz, I will say that this was true for me. My ex and I had a threesome when we were dating, but only because the female and I wanted to experiment with each other, and he just got in the way and made it all awkward.

I will say that I have had threesome/harem fantasies where I'm the queen, but mostly so that all of my body is being touched at the same time, which can be achieved with some creativity and just one adventurous partner.

But what I REALLY want to know is if you guys know how freaking lucky you are that you can pee standing up. No f'ing fair!!!


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Two DS~ 7-Eleven
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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ok, if I rent or buy a power washer, however I get one, it's a good tool to use...

the new color this fall is lemon yellow and navy worn together, wedges are out, and I'm really feeling the boat collar for summer AND fall...


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my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

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k94ever
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OK....here's another question for the menz.

Starting over when you are in your 50's means facing the dating scene with a 50 year-old body. Why is it that older men always look for the young bodies? What's wrong with someone who's body has scars and stretch marks and veins?

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
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saturnpatrick
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not really attracted at all to women much younger than I am.

I don't usually give out my age but I'm mid 30s.

Oh and my poor wife has gone through several surgeries, at least 10. Scars? I don't mind them one bit.

[This message edited by saturnpatrick at 5:41 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)]


BH
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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@K9

Starting over when you are in your 50's means facing the dating scene with a 50 year-old body. Why is it that older men always look for the young bodies? What's wrong with someone who's body has scars and stretch marks and veins?

Honestly? Absolutely nothing. It can be as sexy as all get out. Just the fact that we get to see you naked is a treat and a privilege and can still get us going. I'm 40, but that stuff doesn't bother me or slow me down in the least. My wife has all of those things after 3 kids. Doesn't matter.


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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can I ask a non hoo-ha, non boob related question? Not as exciting, I know...


My girlfriends all decided to take a 3-4 day/night trip to Vegas.

I want to go to Vegas!! My husband has never had any interest in going...

I do not want to do the girls only and suggested we do couples weekend.

Everyone got on board but my husband has no interest in it. He says he will go, but I know his heart isn't in it.I think he needs to suck it up, smile and go....?

If it was reversed and the guys wanted to do a Nascar trip I would go and find enjoyment in non Nascar stuff.

So am I being selfish?


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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, June 24th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@karmahappens

So am I being selfish?

Absolutely not and here's why. In a healthy relationship it's give and take. It's normal to do tings together like this as a couple even if one isn't totally into it. So next time he wants to o to NASCAR, it's the same deal. Even if he's not into the trip, which I totally get because I'm not a Vegas guy either, if my wife asked me I would still go and not even once complain about it. Cuz at some point she's going brewery hopping with me. Give and take.


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"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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