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User Topic: Ask the menz...
TheIrishGirl
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Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, July 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My question is to the womenz -if you like dick, shouldn't you like ALL dick? My question to the menz is have you encountered this phenomenon?

Like others have said, totally makes sense and matters who it's attached to. Pretty sure there are no womenz who will suck on a dildo while having solo time, so the act itself isn't what does it for anybody. It's pleasing your partner, and part of where everything is going that makes it worth it (and sometimes even a good time all on it's own).


Me: 31, BW Him: 38, WH
2 children (ours) 7/11 & 3/14
D-day 4/18/14 I saw his 'other' email

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Guinness23
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Default  Posted: 6:47 PM, July 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Menz...a couple more

1. Whities tighties or color?

2. Do you get turned off/on/neutral if the womenz showers before sex?

3. If your woman asks you to go to the store with a list, do you buy what is ONLY on the list or do you buy other things, too, because you are in there and the food is going to be consumed by you, too?

4.Do you SEE dust and pretend you don't??

5. Do you understand that PMS is NOT on our bucket list and gets worse with age WITHOUT our consent?


Me 47
ExH 43
Divorced 2010

47 is the new year of treating myself better than I have in 6 years.

What ever doesn't kill me makes me stronger so long as I remember that

My favorite drink is no longer Guinness but water. Call me Dasani23


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Schadenfreude
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, July 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whitey righties just don't look good on women.

Pre sex shower can be a good thing if it's a signal. If it's just a shower, however, sometimes followed by sex and sometimes not, it tends to get one's hopes up only to be dashed.

After many years, I am allowed to make some independent purchase decisions in grocery stores. If I want it bad,enough,,I'll bear any consequences.

Men see dust when it approaches Aadams Family proportions. Usually not before.

No. A man has no understanding of PMS at any age. Not on your bucket list, but also not on our radar screen.. Unless the woman admits to having it.

[This message edited by Schadenfreude at 6:59 PM, July 5th (Saturday)]


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Guinness23
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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, July 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One more...

What is with spitting a lugey right on the sidewalk/parking lot/ in public??


Me 47
ExH 43
Divorced 2010

47 is the new year of treating myself better than I have in 6 years.

What ever doesn't kill me makes me stronger so long as I remember that

My favorite drink is no longer Guinness but water. Call me Dasani23


Posts: 501 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Indiana
heartbrokeninaz
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, July 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just wondering if you like your partner to talk or make noise during the act? I always wondered if it was a turn on for men?


BW 40 (me)
WH 40
DDay 1 07/31/13 ONS with horseface
DDay 2 05/09/14 inappropriate texts to another woman (not returned)
I live a real life fairy tale. I married prince charming. He kissed a troll. He turned into a frog.

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kenny55
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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, July 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like to hear the woman talk or make noise. Tells me she is involved and not just laying there till its' over

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MC_Jack
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, July 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just wondering if you like your partner to talk or make noise during the act? I always wondered if it was a turn on for men?
BIG BIG turn on. Makes the man feel more powerful.


I am not a marriage counselor. I chose "MC Jack" because I like the Music City. I did know what MC stood for on this site. Duh.

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Imissmyhusb
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, July 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Last nite WH said he nevr had to bring the fire/freak out of a woman. He was always w women who came to him ready at all times (popular in school, athlete, etc). He feels its on the woman to create the sexual energy for a man, bcuz if the woman doesnt want sex then its not happening. He told me that he is a freak and i said 'i am not convinced'.
I was the least experienced when we got together and when he talkd all this shit abt being a freak i was excited. I'm thinkg fun/variety, he meant frequency

Have any of u been so lucky as to have never had to work for a womans affection/sex? Do men really not know how to seduce, and wait on their W for initiation? If so, how does this affect your M?


Met '95 - dated '97 - married '03 - dday '13
3 kids 7y and 4y twins, me - sahm since '07, him - idk him any more
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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, July 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have any of u been so lucky as to have never had to work for a womans affection/sex? Do men really not know how to seduce, and wait on their W for initiation? If so, how does this affect your M?

I'm kind of amazed at how many sex questions come back to the dude not being aware sex is a two-person operation with equal investiture.

Your H sounds really, really, REALLY fucking lazy. Sorry.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, July 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@Guinness23
1. Whities tighties or color?

Color!

2. Do you get turned off/on/neutral if the womenz showers before sex?

Depends on the situation. I would say, mostly neutral. Although if she hasn't taken a shower in a day and would like oral sex from me...well then, shower please (as I would do for my partners) and this applies to all situations, quicky, marathon, what ever. Taking a shower before hand can also be good for anticipation. Also the throw me down in the bed wet look can be really nice too. And of course, then there's the why not join them in the shower situation too. Too many possibilities for a straight answer. Sorry.

3. If your woman asks you to go to the store with a list, do you buy what is ONLY on the list or do you buy other things, too, because you are in there and the food is going to be consumed by you, too?

I always end up buying other things too. Doesn't matter if MrsYop tells me to stick to the script. Sometimes I can get just what's on the list but usually not though.

4.Do you SEE dust and pretend you don't??

Depends... Terrible at dusting the rooms that no one else sees like our bedroom and master bath. Living room, downstairs bathroom, kitchen, I'll dust fairly regularly and especially if I see dust...unless if it's in the bedroom then I pretend not to see it.


5. Do you understand that PMS is NOT on our bucket list and gets worse with age WITHOUT our consent?

Yes. I get that. MrsYop has had early onset of peri menopause, endometriosis, and a host of other female issues. I try to empathize with her as much as I can.

What is with spitting a lugey right on the sidewalk/parking lot/ in public??

Um no. Never in public. I would never want to be known as "that guy".


@heartbrokeninaz

Just wondering if you like your partner to talk or make noise during the act? I always wondered if it was a turn on for men?

Yes. Definitely a turn on. Does it turn you on when we make noise? In addition to reading body language, I think making noise is a necessity and part of reading your partner in what feels good and what doesn't. It doesn't have to be porno loud, unless you lose yourself and it's real and not an act, and some dirty talk is nice too. Even at whisper level.


@Imissmyhusb

Have any of u been so lucky as to have never had to work for a womans affection/sex? Do men really not know how to seduce, and wait on their W for initiation? If so, how does this affect your M?

Wait, men aren't put on this planet for the sole purpose of pleasing women in the bedroom? Seriously though, I cannot relate to your WH at all. I'll admit it's very nice when a woman initiates, but all the time? Geez! He's missing out on half the fun. Seduction can be such an art. It's dance that can be so much fun. That seduction, or being able to seduce, IMHO is such a huge part of foreplay. And you can do it all day!! Learning what can mentally turn your partner on is so much fun.

I would also never presume to be so lucky. I have never taken any of my partner's for granted nor would I. That would be boring.

I also agree with StillGoing

I'm kind of amazed at how many sex questions come back to the dude not being aware sex is a two-person operation with equal investiture.

^^^^Yep


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am one of those naturally big breasted women. I never had children so they still are tentatively perky. My FAVORITE thing to do is to basically hang them over my partners face while on top of him for him to enjoy. Am I suffocating "him" or is "he" enjoying that, too?

While, again, I cannot speak for all men, I would judge by color here. If he's not turning blue, he's enjoying.


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tired girl
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Imissmyhusband,

This is another way for your H to turn this detachment of his around on you and make you work for it. He is being lazy and trying to make it seem like your fault. It isn't. Sex is a two way street.


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Imissmyhusb
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Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is another way for your H to turn this detachment of his around on you and make you work for it. He is being lazy and trying to make it seem like your fault. It isn't...

I see
His issue is that i wasnt sexual towards him for so long and he lost his attraction toward me. He wants to be sure that i hav what it takes to satisfy him and be consistent. Ur right. Wants me to work smh


Met '95 - dated '97 - married '03 - dday '13
3 kids 7y and 4y twins, me - sahm since '07, him - idk him any more
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k94ever
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YOP.....can you just like clone yourself so the rest of us can have a great guy??????


k9


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Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
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tired girl
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Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His issue is that i wasnt sexual towards him for so long and he lost his attraction toward me. He wants to be sure that i hav what it takes to satisfy him and be consistent.

He actually said this?


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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@Imissmyhusb

His issue is that i wasnt sexual towards him for so long and he lost his attraction toward me. He wants to be sure that i hav what it takes to satisfy him and be consistent.

How very sad and tragic for your husband. I'm not going to say what I really think about him because that won't do you any good. Send him to this ask menz thread stat!! He'll get the choice to learn something from all of us or his ass kicked from all of us. His choice.


@k94ever

YOP.....can you just like clone yourself so the rest of us can have a great guy??????

Ummm... who me? Really? Awwww shucks


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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kernel
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His issue is that i wasnt sexual towards him for so long and he lost his attraction toward me. He wants to be sure that i hav what it takes to satisfy him and be consistent.

What a blame-shifting, cake-eating slimy lump of worm turds shithead! This deserves a whole thread on its own so that we can properly express how much you shouldn't buy into his entitled-center-of-the-universe, worship-me-cause-I'm-such-a-prize bullshit.

(not sure of the proper grammar of all that so I went with more dashes than I have ever used in my life)

Imiss - you deserve so much better than this. No one should treat you this way.


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His issue is that i wasnt sexual towards him for so long and he lost his attraction toward me. He wants to be sure that i hav what it takes to satisfy him and be consistent. Ur right. Wants me to work smh

So he's not just lazy, he's a lazy, selfish asshole.

I'm pretty sure even someone who looks like Adonis that had the fighting prowess of Cain Velasquez and the witty humor of Bruce Campbell would have to do a little more than telepathically announce his sexual readiness every once in awhile. I doubt your WH compares in any one category but if he does, he's still a lazy, selfish asshole. If he compares in all three then, well, I'll have to get back on that one. Bruce Campbell is pretty fucking awesome.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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Imissmyhusb
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Default  Posted: 11:29 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He actually said this?

Not word for word but, yes he did
One of his complaints in MC was that i didnt show him that he was appreciated and desired, and that when i did it wasnt consistent. This is part of what he feels would make him happy in our M. So i put together that consistent sex makes him feel appreciated and happy.
Based on what i get at home, i belv he is waitg to see if he can get that from me... And then he will decide to commit to R and fully go NC w OWs. Not easy for a BS to just go there, so wide open w an unremorseful WS.

Its like he is the BS, puttg conditions on R and expectg me to be remorseful (which i am) for withdrawg (the alleged betrayal) when I hurt from not getttg what i needed. Ive cried and askd forgiveness for my bad coping mechanisms. Im in IC. He cheated.

Thanks for the support. He is a piece of work
He says i take thgs out of context to make myself look like the poor victim, and him the crazy one. I think im just stating facts.

This deserves a whole thread on its own

Sorry for the t/j. I'll start a new thread

[This message edited by Imissmyhusb at 11:34 PM, July 7th (Monday)]


Met '95 - dated '97 - married '03 - dday '13
3 kids 7y and 4y twins, me - sahm since '07, him - idk him any more
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capilot
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Default  Posted: 3:18 AM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Before I started nursing I had A cup breasts that WH always said were perfect. Now that I'm a C cup he just oggles them all the time. Was he lying when he said I was perfect before?

Not lying. They're perfect because they're attached to you.

Case in point: when I was dating a girl with red hair, I realized that I was attracted to women with red hair. That made me realize that in general, I'm attracted to women who look like the woman I'm with.


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