how much difference does it actually make to the sexual experience for a man if a woman is really young and skinny
So I have had exactly one partner in the past twenty years so not much recent experience.
I'd say it matters....some. For me skinny isn't attractive at all, I like curves. And too young is just, I don't know, not very interesting I guess. But that said, a fit, attractive body is a turn on. But so are lots of other things too. It's part of a package.
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how much difference does it actually make to the sexual experience for a man if a woman is really young and skinny?
To paraphrase a famous old baseball player, half of sex is 90% mental. Meaning, it has a lot to do with enthusiasm. Different guys find different things attractive, so if you are the type that the guy finds attractive, he is going to be more enthusiastic about you. If you are enthusiastic about him, that also plays into it. Someone I know likes to say, it's all the same in the dark. So, young and skinny - the actual sex - no real difference - all other things being equal.
Would you appreciate boudoir shots from your wife/SO? Or do you think they're trashy?
OK, here's my question. If you and your wife talk in the evening about how you're going to have sex that night, and your wife then falls asleep on the couch watching Orange is the New Black, wakes up at 3:30 am, and wakes you up for sex (doing all the work while you just lay there), is the wife redeemed or are you annoyed that she fell asleep on the couch?
Would u feel that u couldnt trust your wife anymore if u found out she was invading your privacy?
Why would he not be making improvements to try to draw me back to him? Why wouldn't he make the effort to step out of his comfort zone and do the things I need, like opening up emotionally.
Penis size seems to come up a lot in men's worry lists, so I am wondering if that is because men really do care a lot about the 'size and shape' of the lady bits.
Skinny? I guess who a person is trumps how the person looks, but the young Sophia Loren really captured my attention. I would not call her skinny.
W was skinny at the end of her A - she weighed too little to qualify for LT care insurance. She was also very unhealthy, and one of my reqs for R was that she gain weight.
Skinny is over-rated, IMO.
Like, the 13 character on House, I think she is unnaturally skinny and therefore zero sexual attraction factor.
I personally prefer short & curvy but like mhca, I've had one partner for the past 20 years (she is my only partner) so really, what she looks like is my baseline for sexy. The closer to her, the more attractive the woman physically.
That kind of thing really seems like a personal preference though. I understand there is a social pressure for being TFS for women in general but, for the most part, that's not something unattainable as a goal. If some guy wants a bigger dick you can't just go pump some weights for 6 months and add on that length and girth. That isn't an entirely fair comparison, I know.
What I think the answer to this question comes down to is the inaccessibility of a personal experience to judge for oneself. Not the dick size thing necessarily but the option of comparison - for me, my wife fucking a guy with a bigger dick while my sexual experiences lay solely within her purview, for lack of a better word at the moment, generates a certain escalation of the already extant insecurity of Dick Size. I've only got her opinion, and that's all I have to go on.
What I mean by inaccessibility is that without cheating, or some careful and awkward planning on both our part, that comparative opinion is never going to happen. So while it should be irrelevant, it's just one of those things.
I suspect it may be similar to a BW and the whole young & skinny thing. If it doesn't relate at all then I made you read all that shit FOR NOTHING.
Also, I don't get the whole stretch marks issue. It's like a verification that your vagina works great. Are there guys that talk about it being ugly or something? I have never heard a comment about it from a guy.
When men say "curvy" are they mostly thinking of breast size?
Nope. Not breast size. All of a woman's curves. When I think curvy I think of the complete package. There are many different types of curvy body types. There is something to be enjoyed in all of them.
Question: When men say "curvy" are they mostly thinking of breast size?
That's a big part of it of course. But the curve between the hip and waist is an interesting one. And the outer leg tapering to the knee. Also some roundness in the face is something I like.
OK, now I'm getting distracted....
Okay, look. Fat = soft. Women are soft, smell nice and have strikingly different dimensions than men. Boobs are just one coordinate in the local definition of Curvy.
Here is math for it:
That is a B6 polytope. There are lots of different kinds of them, just like the bra size.
Sometimes curvy can be attributed more to ass, hips, etc; if I provide all the coordinates then all you'll need is one more sigil to activate the Stargate, so I'm just gonna leave it there.
if I provide all the coordinates then all you'll need is one more sigil to activate the Stargate,
This thread has got me cracking up!
I sure don't. Women have so many wonderful curves. ETA - breasts are included, of course.
(This question made me realize men, too, have lots of curves, some very similar to women's curves.)
[This message edited by sisoon at 9:49 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday)]
Ok, I'm reaching back to answer this one...
Pic 1 was him topless, with the waist of his shorts pulled down a little bit so you could see his tan line - and also the line where his pubic hair starts.
Pic 2 was him naked and semi-erect.
He claims he took the pics for himself, as a way of boosting his self esteem. Hub recently lost about 10 pounds, and is in great shape. He's also got a new and amazingly deep tan from being in Florida and Hawaii on business for almost two months now. (Clearly with that much beach time, they're not working him too hard.)
My question is, would any of you guys EVER take sexy selfies for any reason except to send to somebody you want to sleep with?
[This message edited by Brandon808 at 7:00 AM, July 22nd, 2014 (Tuesday)]
For the most part I don't need privacy from my wife. Yes there are probably things she could do that would make me feel like she was invading my privacy, but if there is trust she wouldn't need to do anything drastic and if she had a good reason I would understand. Most of the time privacy is used to coverup things people want to hide and I try to be an honest and truthful man with nothing to hide.
It sounds like your husband is just lazy or doesn't have the capacity to change. Changing oneself is hard work and some people don't seem to have the ability to do it on their own. What consequences does your WH suffer for not changing? Knowing that your love languages are different requires you each to change some to interact better with each other. I'm a BS and cannot answer your second question though I had some of the same fears/feelings.
As a BS I can't even relate to being with another woman while being married. Let alone answer how it could happen. We are heading for divorce and I still wear my ring because we are still married. Though it has certainly lost its specialness.
Brandon, I'm going to say they probably feel regret not remorse. I believe the standard SI definition is regret is about how I feel about what I did wrong and remorse is how I show you I feel about what I did wrong. From what kick wrote I don't see any remorse.
I think most of us don't worry about our size until it becomes an issue because of something you say or do. I think we have already answered the lady bits size question earlier in the thread. For the most part we don't care too much. Too young and too skinny is an issue. In reasonable shape and close to my age is preferred. I can't imagine dating someone who was young enough to be my daughter. Since I'm fairly active my dating age range will probably -10 to +5 years relative to my age.
Curvy to me is certainly breasts though they are certainly not the majority item. Nice curvature around the waist and butt/hips is also very nice as are many other curvacious regions (neck, face, legs, etc.). Nicely balanced curvature is my preference.
Good one StillGoing, but those look like straight lines not curves!
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Bullshit. Every man has passing thoughts about other women, but not every man "wants" to try someone new, and especially not to increase his appreciation for his wife!
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